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3/4/2011
psychlady, Counselor
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VerifiedWhatever makes you feel better and less tense you should do before the anniversary. Definitely before. I never advise to ignore an affair or even a probable affair. The ideal is to discuss this right away in counseling. If not, then find time before the anniversary to discuss it between the two of you. Going without doing so probably would result in it being severely stressful to you and not to mention that you won't enjoy yourself (and lead to you fronting that you are enjoying yourself). Find a quiet time to discuss this affair and your evidence. You can start non accusatory by saying that you ran across information that claimed she was having an affair.
Proceed with that information but either way resolve in counseling. You may not be able to celebrate the anniversary depending on this discussion. If she admits it then there is a lot to be resolved including the impact on this relationship. If she denies it you have to decide if you believe her response. It is very probable that this celebration may not happen unless you choose to put up a very big front.
Discuss this with someone understanding whether it is therapist or friend. Proceed with whatever actions allow you to feel this is resolved
Proceed with that information but either way resolve in counseling. You may not be able to celebrate the anniversary depending on this discussion. If she admits it then there is a lot to be resolved including the impact on this relationship. If she denies it you have to decide if you believe her response. It is very probable that this celebration may not happen unless you choose to put up a very big front.
Discuss this with someone understanding whether it is therapist or friend. Proceed with whatever actions allow you to feel this is resolved
psychlady, Counselor
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