this I sent you way back in December - so here it is as a refresher
Briefly have been dating man for 2.5 years who had serious stroke 12 years ago, brain bleed 2 years ago ( I nursed him back to health ) 3 bad marriages - he was unfaithful, women were not loyal either except for # XXXXX He has never been as happy or in love with anyone as me.....after even choosing a ring and booking a honey moon - this was 15th marriage proposal, he cancels again so I dump him. Then a month later he asks me to attend Bar Mitzva in NYC - he is jewish - I am not. He is a retired doctor , very stingy with his money
He once again says that he loves me, invites me to come live with him in FLorida - I live in COlorado and work for a living - I cannot live in Limbo with no security and do not like where he lives anyway.
I suggest that he takes 6 months off to see other women as he tells me that he cannot get married, because he feels trapped and is always unfaithful. He is shocked but asks for one month to see how much he misses me. First day apart he calls 3 times misses me and loves me. Then basically no contact for 2 months - a few unimportatn emails. He did take a vacation with a woman and says that no one is as wonderful as I am. Now he has invitied me on a trip - I cannot go because I already have a cruise planned with other friends. Now he says he is going to send me a Valentines present. He lives in Florida and for the past 2 years has travelled to Colorado every month in the winter to visit me - he has always hated cold weather and is not coming this winter. He told me last night that when he talks to me he remember that he loves me, but when we are apart and do not communicate ( he has always been funny about phone calls and prefers emails ) his love fades he tells me.
He is saying that he feels lonely now and has not found anyone even close to as wonderful as I am. He loves his florida home and golfing buddies.
We did have a wonderful time together when he was not lying about marriage.
I am 60 divorced few single men wher I live - I am attractive & healty.
I am realistic that there will be no marriage but would like to get him back to date - perhaps I will be seen by someone else.
I did tell him that I was not in love any more and did not want to marry him, but we should be able to work something out to still have fun together and that is when he named a time in future when he knows I can leave my work but I already booked a cruise and he does not like cruises and I do not want him to come anyway - will be looking for new men.
How does one get back a former fiance who lives in differend state? He does come to Colorado every summer for 3 months.
What do you suggest?