Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Connect one-on-one with {0} who will answer your question

i have been seeing somone for about a year and half already…

Customer Question

i have been seeing somone...

i have been seeing somone for about a year and half already and he is 10 years older than me, before we got together he was involved with my cousin same age as me, but they had broken up. well she knows about us hooking up and she doesnt really hold it against me beacause she has done the same to another cousin of ours...this is not new for my family obviously. but my cousin tells me he tells her he loves her and still wants to be with her. i love my cousin and all but i have seen her make up stories before with her ex's when they were involved with someone else. he denies it when i confront him about it. He also claims to not have a relationship with a female he stays with, i dont believe it and to be honest i wouldn't mind. i am not asking for a comitted relationship with him. I dont think im ready for all that. but i love being around him, and he makes me feel good when he's around, im so comfortable with him, and its hard to be that with anybody for me. My kids like him, and dont usually like any males that give me attention like he does. i just want to know if i should just give up and move on, well when i tell him i want to, he wont let me... he makes believe that one day we will be together when we are BOTH ready. im just wondering if this just a physical relationship instead of a REAL relationship, i like to think we have a friendship to, but not if he's not honest. and if this matters, we have a great connection when we are physically intimate, it just feels like we were meant to be.
what do i do?
thank u

Submitted: 12 years ago.Category: Relationship

Show Less

Ask Your Own Relationship Question

Answered in 54 minutes by:

1/31/2011

Counselor: psychlady, Counselor replied 12 years ago

psychlady, Counselor

Category: Relationship

Satisfied Customers: 7,358

Experience: I have over 16 years experience in treating adults presenting with a variety of relationship issues

Verified

This answer is protected

Would you like to ask this question?

If you've already paid for this answer, simply Login.

Was this answer helpful?

Yes

How JustAnswer works

Describe your issueThe assistant will guide you

Chat 1:1 with a counselorLicensed Experts are available 24/7

100% satisfaction guaranteeGet all the answers you need

Related Relationship Questions

The guy im seeing is going to be 40 & his mom thought it

The guy im seeing is going to be 40 & his mom thought it would be a good idea for him & his mother and grandma to move into a big house so he can take care of them financially. His mom left him and hi… read more

LeahLMSW

Clinical Social Worker

Master's Degree

904 satisfied customers

I need help to save my relationship. It was great for a time

I need help to save my relationship. It was great for a long time but his mother got involved and judged me without knowing me . he lives three states away abd our communication has gotten bad i can f… read more

Chelsea Wise

Marriage and Family Therapist

Master of Science

849 satisfied customers

My boyfriend and I have been having problems lately. he has

hello. My boyfriend and I have been having problems lately. he has a hard time dealing with my sexual history and constantly gets in his head about it... when he does, he takes all his anger, insecuri… read more

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

Doctoral Degree

444 satisfied customers

My partner whom I dont live with yet has several female

My partner whom I dont live with yet has several female friends. I am fine with this. He is 57 I am 51. I only start feeling very uptight when he visits one in particular who works odd hours and there… read more

Dr.G.

Counseling Psychologist

Doctoral Degree

688 satisfied customers

How are you suppose to handle a boyfriend that is always

Hi how are you suppose to handle a boyfriend that is always telling stories about everything he does I found out that he has his ex wife still are his insurance he out of work and he had to use some o… read more

TherapistJen

Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Master's Degree

4,138 satisfied customers

, we broke up with my ex girlfriend like months , but

Hi, we broke up with my ex girlfriend like for 2 months , but we have been texting and talking to each other, we are clearly in love both of us but several reasons including distance (im in NY she is … read more

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

Master's Degree

1,790 satisfied customers

Hi Kate, Greetings, and hope all is good on your side.

Hi Kate... Do you have any tips for him (my cousin) to make her smaller in his mind? He will see her at a wedding in six months and really wants to be over these desirous thoughts of her. I probed a l… read more

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

Master's Degree

1,790 satisfied customers

have been with the father of my children for bout 12 years.bout

have been with the father of my children for bout 12 years.bout a month ago he came home and said he had met the love of his life a week ago and was leaving us and moving to his moms.for about 2 weeks… read more

Dr. Paige

Psychologist

Doctoral Degree

1,354 satisfied customers

i want to know what do you mean take it slow and see whatever

i want to know what do you mean take it slow and see whatever happened as i been seeing the guy for a months now and we didnt had intercourse since last week and again last weekend. we like each other… read more

SLREED

Family Resource Specialist

Master's Degree

201 satisfied customers

hello, i split up with my partner of 3yrs about 9 months ago.

hello, i split up with my partner of 3yrs about 9 months ago. we went through a lot with his ex wife and her stopping him seeing his kids etc, but we got through it together.. over time my feelings be… read more

Jen Helant

Bachelor's Degree

1,262 satisfied customers

im having a really hard time.... my fiance left me in april

im having a really hard time.... my fiance left me in april to go back to his ex girlfriend, we have a gorgeous little boy together and were due to get married august 4th... well since hes left me hes… read more

Jen Helant

Bachelor's Degree

1,262 satisfied customers

Back when I was in the 6th grade I had started going out with

Back when I was in the 6th grade I had started going out with a guy, as you know being young we were obviosly going to brake up. Even though we had broken up we still liked each other throughout the 7… read more

Elliott, LPCC, NCC

Adjunct Professor

Master's Degree

1,411 satisfied customers

ive have been with my boyfriend for just over a year, before

i've have been with my boyfriend for just over a year, before me he was with somone who supported him through losing his ex partner to cancer, they split has although she loved him he didn't feel the … read more

psychlady

Counselor

Master's Degree

7,358 satisfied customers

Hi, My name is Scott and here is my situation that im really

Hi, My name is XXXXX XXXXX here is my situation that im really struggling to deal with. I recently found my soulmate 6 months ago, we both love each other so very much, actually what we both feel we h… read more

Angela

Counselor

490 satisfied customers

Ive been talking to a guy for 5 months now. weve only hung

Ive been talking to a guy for 5 months now. weve only hung out once and he always text me and usually initiates the texts. he got out of a 2 year relationship last september and i told him that i like… read more

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

should you except a female that was met on a brake in ur relationship

when he does tell me that thay have talked he would say things like she has alot of med. problems the doctor told her she need to have sex and things like that i dont think u would share with someone … read more

Cher

JustAnswer Expert & Mentor;Teacher/Tutor

Masters Degree

1,939 satisfied customers

Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 6 years. We just

Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 6 years. We just had a beautiful son together in Oct. he has a daughter and i have a daughter no relations anyway. He recently told me he doesnt think the … read more

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

how do you know if someone really loves you he has a girlfriend

how do you know if someone really loves you?he has a girlfriend but he tells his girlfriend he loves me.… read more

KimberlyF

High School or GED

554 satisfied customers

Disclaimer: Information in questions answers, and Show Less

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

JustAnswer in the News:

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.
Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!
AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.
GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.
JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.
EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.
RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.
DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,790 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

465 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

444 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

< Previous | Next >

Show MoreShow Less