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hi, been married for 3 years now, my sister in law has decided

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hi, been married for 3 years now, my sister in law has decided she hates me and has complained about everything from how I treat my husband to my life choices in terms of career and parenting. Is this jealously and envy?
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 6 years ago.



The reasons for her behavior may be different. Envy is one. Other possibilities may be that she is projecting her own shortcomings onto you. That way, she takes the attention away from herself and places it onto another person.


She may also be doing this not because she is jealous of you, but of her brother. She may have an inferiority complex. Why she is doing it may not be even clear to her. Behavior serves a purpose even if it is unhealthy. It is serving her one way or another. She may be getting attention. Even negative attention is preferred to lack of attention all together.


What would be helpful is not to fight with her. Try not to take it personal (even she's personally trying to attack you) Instead, remain kind to her. She must be in turmoil if all she is experiencing are negative and hateful feelings. What kind of life is that for anyone? Try to ignore her words and behaviors and see the person behind it.

If she is doing this to get a reaction out of you, don't give in to it.
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Customer: replied 6 years ago.
can you explain to me why she might be jealous of her brother?
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 6 years ago.
Competiveness, she may have thought he was treated better growing up and now he's got the life she wishes she did. It may be due to unresolved past issues as well as envy because of the numan nature wanting more and more.