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I am 38 years old. My boyfriend saw an email that I sent to

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I am 38 years old. My boyfriend saw an email that I sent to a friend (who was an ex over five years ago.) Shortly before I met my current boyfriend Shawn, I found out that my ex-boyfriend Jim has been diagnosed with liver cancer. At one point, doctors were giving him 6m to 1 year to live. Jim and I, over the years, has reached a point where we can talk and support each other strictly as friends. I spoke with Jim back in August and he was getting ready for a second surgery. Since then I have not communicated with you either by phone, email or in person (partly due to my full attention on my relationship with Shawn (current) and with work and my daughter). The problem...last week I sent an email to Jim because I started thinking that he might not have fared well after the second surgery. In the email, I spoke about my concerns for him, but also about my daughter, my work, and even activities Shawn and I had recently joined. The last two sentences before I signed off caused the problem. I wrote to Jim that he has been on my mind a lot (which is true since I didn't even find out if he made it out of surgery well) and that I miss him and hope his health is stable. I signed off with love, then my name. Shawn is hurt and furious. Please help me save my relationship.<br /><br />Already tried...I sent an email explaining to Shawn that Jim is first and only person who is my peer diagnosed with a terminal illness. I didn't talk to him after his second surgery and there are guilt factors from me, thinking I missed my chance to see him before he passed. I reassured Shawn that it is him that I love.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
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