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some weekends my boyfriend leaves and ignore my calls and text.

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some weekends my boyfriend leaves and ignore my calls and text. he says hes in the house chilling. but he just started doing that. he will call and talk for a sec then he says ill call u back he not on his phone and he is at home but i think someone may be there with him.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
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Customer: replied 6 years ago.
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Expert:  Suzanne replied 6 years ago.
Thank you for bringing your question to Just Answer!

I know this will be hard to read, but I think you are right to wonder if he is cheating on you.
When someone's behavior changes suddenly, you have every right and reason to suspect that they are hiding something from you. Either:
1. he no longer feels as he once did toward you, but is afraid to break up with you..and he hopes that by treating you badly you will dump him, so he doesn't have to have the guilt of hurting you. OR,
2. He is seeing someone else.

The fact that he says that's he's home chilling on the weekends instead of spending time with you is all the information you really need to know that this man is not as invested in this relationship as you are. And if that was all he was doing, he should have been able to talk and text as usual. The answer is clear--that's not what he is really doing.

When a guy really wants to be with a woman, he will do everything he can to be with her. This guy is pulling away.

Save your sanity and your heart and get out of this relationship. Find someone who is your biggest fan, whose favorite thing is to spend time with you, and who makes you feel like someone very special.

I think deep down, you already knew there was a big problem. I'm sorry to say I agree with you. You deserve someone who treats you with respect.