Thank you so much for replying back to me, it is really appreciated. It clearly does show that work from both sides is needed.
She is clearly hurting from this and since talking to her for another 8 hours, I am slowly getting my ahead around this. However, in order for me to focus on putting it right, I need to understand the following;
1. Can guilt really be a reason for telling me, she says as things were so good, she could no longer live with the fact that she had done this? Does the human mind work like this?
2. In your experience, I know these questions are difficult to ask, but as people are were all prone to such slips i.e. as this is so out of character for her.
3. Do I try and carry on as normal, or is this letting her belief everything is fine?
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What is covered in councelling, what do they focus on, we tried this many years ago due to circumstances at the time, but did not really see the benefit. In cases like this what do they cover?
Thanks for your help, really is appreciated.