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Hi, how are you tonight?
Have been better...
I see. I have read your post and I have a few more questions for you is that okay?
Can you tell me why you cant see both guys? and how long you have been seeing each of them?
I can't see both guys as they both want only me...the scary thing is i've only had one date with both of them, and they're both declaring undying love for me already!!
how old are you and they?
I'm 39, they are both 36
Actually I'm 38
eeek sorry :)
After one date they both want you exclusively?
yep! Scary eh?
unless you are KateWinslet, is this Kate?
yes its scary
nope i wish!!
Okay do you want to take some time to sort this out? or do you have a good idea already about what you should do?
no idea at all
Lets call the first guy Jack and the second guy Larry.
Tell me about Jack. What is he like, where is he from, what does he do for a living and how you met him.
I met him online, he's a fireman, he lives 40 mins away.
He's very fit...pt instructor part time
Is he attractive?
divorced, single widowed
oh I know, I adore fire fighters too.
Single, never been married, no kids
He's quite attractive
and he is 36
ok and on your first date you went where?
The fire fighter thing worries me as most of them seem to have a reputation!!
We went to dinner for first date
and he was attentive and kind to you?
it was nice, he was very attentive and very kind
ok and how did he find out you were also dating Larry?
he doesn't know!
oh, good girl
ok, tell me about Larry, where is he from what is he like and how did you meet him?
XXXXX XXXXXves over an hour away and is a policeman, i met him online too
He is very kind and very attentive
you like civil servants.
okay and does Larry know you are dating Jack?
I am one, it's kinda the norm!!
Nope he doesn't know either
okay now tell me about you, have you ever been married? what do you do, what are you like and where do you want to be in five years?
The date with Larry was a night in with footie, pizza and dvd's
i loved that night!!
it was lovely
I was married for 15 years
Larry is great on nights in. Always comfortable in any situation.
been seperated for a year, in that time had a couple of disasters
Oh I see
looking for someone who wants me and will look after me
but wants me for me...
larry can help me move out of the current job position i'm in now....
to a better one
are you going through with your divorce?
Jack travelled up to my house and dropped flowers and chocs and magazines etc off because i was ill....
whats up with the divorce?
is that going through?
My divorce will start next year after two years of seperation
my ex won't do it any earlier
are you in touch with the ex? at all
what is he like, the ex?
yeah, we have two kids
12 and 14
and they live with you or with Dad or both?
the ex is ok, not been in love with him for about ten years :-(
They live with him because of my shifts
do the children live with you?
I see again what do you do?
civil servant? but what branch?
oh I see
My first impression when I read your post is that you should continue to see both men.
One date is not time enough for exclusivity.
and both men sound to me like very nice men.
they are but how do i tell them??
So do you think you can see each man for at least two more dates before you make up your mind?
How do you tell them what?
I'd like to see them both more but i feel like i'm stringing them along and that;s the last thing i want to do
you are not stringing them along. You are one date from being strangers with each?
They do not need to know about each other
and its too early for promises of fidelity
do i tell them that i'm seeing other people?
No its not their business just yet
but they are both asking if i'm seeing anyone else
You are betraying no one
i feel that i am
and evade or say something like nothing serious for you to worry about.
how come you feel badly? You are not married to Jack or Larry
both have a chance for a future with you
but you do not make up your mind on SUCH IMPORTANT DECISIONS
after one date.
i'm not but they are both such nice guys
And you are a nice lady too.
but you should also be a smart lady
you can be smart and be nice at the same time.
i should i agree
so can we put you first here?
Problem is i can be too trusting
can we put your welfare first?
EXACTLY why you need to take your time on this
I'd like to...
I hereby give you permission to put you first and not make up your mind until you have more time on this and I hereby declare you a good good girl no matter what
yes thank you
Take it slow with both
and be discrete
I can do that
this is your business and your business only
and be careful when you jump in the sack
be careful with your health and your heart.
Okay and dont forget to write me back when you do decide?
I want to know how it all turned out for you.
course, thank you
Enjoy your two nice guys and all the attention and
and my warmest wishes to you.