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Hello JA customer are you there?
Hi opera are you there?
My computer was stubborn earlier.
Sorry about that.
how are you tonight?
I will do my best to help you.
I have one confused thing to clear up with you from your post, okay?
Fortunately, the situation with my boyfriend got resolved.
What needs clearing up?
okay so you started a new relationship on monday and you also have a boyfriend. Can you tell me more about the boyfriend. How long have you been dating and does he know that you began a new relationship on monday?
I started a relationship with my current boyfriend on Monday.
I would never cheat on him.
are you saying you started dating on Monday and you consider this man your boyfriend?
Monday was six days ago
this past monday?
six days ago
The situation with him got resolved.
okay so he is not your boyfriend he is someone you would like to be your boyfriend perhaps but if you only started dating him six days ago he is not your boyfriend.
okay what part got resolved and what part needs resolving?
are you there?
I'm more worried about the roommate situation now.
what is the issue with the roommate?
your computer is still givng you problems here?
what did your roomate say was bugging her about you?
I'm thinking about that e-mail that she sent.
okay can you share with us the email she sent? or some part of it
I take it from earlier exchanges you are a freshman?
so what is bugging your roommate what did she say?
That was the e-mail.
So you are stressed because you did not respect her or the shared space and she has called you on this?
so all that needs be done is that you change that :)
She is barely there.
all that must be done is that you be more respectful of her space.
she lives there
She sleeps in the room only once or twice per week.
she is barely there because your behavior disturbs here but it is still where she lives
she is barely there because she cannot stand the smell or the mess
its her room too
I took care of the smell today.
you must be respectful of this?
what happened to your freshman roommate?
I have tried cleaning up the room before a few times.
there should not have been a smell to begin with tho?
It was just a pair of shoes, that's all.
there should not have been a smell to start with and you must pick up after yourself. Its not your room. Its her room too and she is not spending time there because it must be so unpleasant for her. Does not matter if it were smelly shoes or a dead rat. still smells bad and she should not have to live with that?
so you start cleaning up every day after yourself and no bad smells
also if you have homework to do that will awaken her you go to the lounge instead of the room
I ordered a new pair of shoes and threw the old ones away.
no reason to stress\
just do what she has asked yuo to do.
you are not getting the problem here
I cannot focus in the lounge.
its not the shoes it is your behavior that is the problem.
then do your homework later in the day and not in the lounge, you have no right to do that when she is sleeping.
I don't remember ever doing that to her.
Well apparently you did that/
Time to become more aware of her and others.
maybe one time if ever
Tidy up that room, be considerate and clean and you will have no reason to stress.
one time is one time too many
I already did those things.
okay I think you are not here for an expert answer after all but I wish you luck and hope school goes well for you.
Thank you for your help.