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OK- I am confused on how to proceed-- I recently found out

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OK- I am confused on how to proceed-- I recently found out that my husband has been placing personal ads online and trying to meet or meeting women- Then I found that the picture of himself that he sends to these women includes him with our 2 year old son. My mother thinks I should contact someone in child welfare before confronting him, but I feel I need to confront him sooner rather than later. Either way, I am leaving and filing for divorce. Just don't know what to do tonight.
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Cathy replied 6 years ago.

Hi and thanks for writing JA


I do not know why your mother thinks this is a case for child welfare? I see no case and I work on hundreds of these cases every year.

I see no childhood abuse or negligence from a jerky Dad who uses his child to attract a match online. Shame on him for being such a jerk but then you know that.


I would say before you confront him on his betrayal of you, you get yourself and your child and every thing you need to a safe place and you save every bit of documentation, every personal ad, every shred of email you have on him.


I think you are smart and brave that you know enough to get out and I see absolutely no evidence of child abuse or negligence. It is indeed very cheesy and shameful, but no indication of child abuse.


You take very very good care of yourself and be sure you are safe when you leave him. Call your local womens domestic violence center for help if you need it. Get out and make sure you and your child are in a safe place before you confront him.

Warm regards,


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