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What would be the perfect thing I can say to him so I can get the help I need, He just feels all I do is ask him for help all the time. I have a commission based job and looking for a more fulltime position. I have resumes out and I just this morning recieved a reply from a salon in his town and they will be calling me for an interview. They said the salon will be opening in November.Yesterday he was telling me that he had called his other siblings about needing to get out of his fathers wrath, That he wanted his own apartment. I do not believe he will be working anymore. He retired from restuarants that he owned and worked for. I believe everything will be paid for by his fathers estate. What about me? Do I continue to work this fulltime job, if I move in with this retired boyfriend? How do you know when a man really loves you? How could I not be upset with him about not helping me right now? He said yesterday he has never had a woman in his life that Dr. Keane I live very much within my means. I just have not gottten a lucky break and believe everyday I look for work and study the wanted ads. I have interviewed so far since I am back to my townbut same situations every where I go. I am told call me in season and I will see if I can use you here. All these jobs are commisson only. They do not pay hourly or salary. That is the salon buisness. I want you to know Brian did spend close to 10,000 in the 4 months he has known me. That is what he keeps harping on. That money includes a couch, dining table, and coffee table he purchased which I now own and storing in a self storage. I am trying everyday to get work.
There is nothing more you can say without begging and he is very clear on what you are asking for.He is doing what he feels he needs to do, I still would think this over very carefully. Love doesn't have a price tag. You would be best served by working on you, getting your life in order, not trying to figure out where he fits in, right now he doesn't.
Hi, trust your gut, if you are not certain about anything and want to know you have every right to ask him. If you feel like he needs to call you then trust what you feel and wait for him. There is something not right, you feel it, you know it. See how he reacts when you tell him about your interview.
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Hi, I am sorry you had to hear this from him and at this point you need to focus on you , not him. Your gut was right and you listened. It may save you from making another mistake down the road, especially if he is as controlling as his father. I would suggest that you find a therapist and have a few sessions to help you get through this. You can call your local mental health agency and they will help you find someone to see you at a very reduced rate or even free. I am limited in what I can do for you in this environment. You need to talk to someone face to face. Think about it, it would be more helpful than the back and forth on this site. I hope you find some relief having made this decision, you did the right thing and you knew it all along.