Thanks for your response. Two years ago, my friend made arrangements to meet my other friend without my knowledge. This happened when they were both at a party at my house. The second friend came up to me quite upset, actually, to let me know. After thinking about it for a day, I asked her not to go ahead with the meeting. At the time, I felt very befuddled about the whole thing (I actually felt like I was acting like a teenager), but I thought if they met, I would feel even worse.
Since then, I never had the two of them together, although the first friend kept asking me if we three couldn't all go to dinner sometime.
Last night was a holiday, and I decided that two years have passed. I had already invited the second friend, and a bit relunctantly, I asked the first one - thinking that I needed to get over my anxiety.
I heard them making some kind of arrangement in the kitchen. I think the first friend was asking her to take bridge lessons or some such thing (I"m not exactly sure and haven't asked). I don't plan to interfere again - they are all adults, but I found last night when I wrote you that I was really furious about this. I don't think my friend has any knowledge about boundearies in this sort of situation.
Thanks for any advice you can give me.