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I have a history of not really choosing the relationship I

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I have a history of not really choosing the relationship I want to be in, but rather, falling 'in love' after I am in a relationship, because I am in a relationship. So, I never know if I am in love with the person I am with because I love her, or because I am with her.
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 7 years ago.

Good Evening,


It may be a defense mechanism. You may be in fact in love but not letting yourself accept that until you feel a sense of security and predictability within the relationship.


Try to think if the feeling were ever different from what you're experiencing now and when this may have started (if something may have triggered it)

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