Hi Angela, you seem nice and I trust you, plus i've already paid for an answer so here goes....Ok, this is very complicated situation but I will do my best to explain. The bully is and was a friend of the family. He was also my younger brothers teacher and he will soon be my nephews teacher.
I have three (3) brothers. Two are identical twins, 40yrs and my younger brother is 20yrs old.
The bully was my brothers best man at his wedding. A few years ago, for what ever reason, the bully decided he was no longer friends with my brother, lets call him brother A but continues his friendship with the twin brother B. The bully then went and slept with brother A's wife, destroying his marriage. Brother B continued to be friends with the bully. This cause many many problems between my brothers. They do not speak now and my brother has lost all his friends because of this. To make matters worse, his wife continues to have an on/off relationship with the bully and her son, my nephew will have this bully as a teacher soon.
I know!!! You may say ...this is a matter between grown men. BUT. My younger brother had the bully as a teacher, and while in his final year at school, the class went on a school tour, out of the country. While on tour, the bully called my mothers house and told my mother that my younger brother had gone missing. This was a lie. When my mother talked with my brother, he said he was out drinking .My mother then told my brother to behave. My brother, annoyed with this, confronted the bully and there was a scene. For the rest of the school year my brother was labelled a ‘trouble kid' and this resulted in my brothers grades dropping and a very important project being destroyed, hours before an exam deadline. The only teacher with the keys to the exam hall was the bully. My brother came back home, upset about his project..which angered me to the point that I insisted my mother join me and we both went straight to the school department head. I demanded that I see my brothers project, where upon inspection, I found pages missing from his folder, (I typed them, so I know there were there) and nails bent in his woodwork project. I looked the bully straight in the eyes and told him he was a disgrace. When I got personal in nature with him, the department head agreed that my brother be given time to fix his project. The bully knows Not to mess with me but he continue to mess with my brothers. The school project incident was 4 yrs ago. Recently my younger brother started dating a new girl and the bully called to her house and told her parents that my brother was a convicted thief. Lies. This cause problems with his new girl but they did not break up. A few weeks after this, my younger brother saw the bully out in the pub and he ‘grunted' at him, he has enough self control to contain himself, he knows only to well that the bully is TROUBLE. But a few days after this my other older brother, bully's friend, called my younger brother and told him to ‘grow up'. My younger brother just accepted this but told me a few weeks later and I told my other brother A. My older brother A, asked my mother to call a family meeting to talk about all this but she refused and told my other brother B, that the rest of us are just looking for a fight. Since this comment, two weeks ago, I no longer talk to my mother and my older brother B. My family is split in two. On one side is me, younger brother and brother A and on the other side is mother, brother B, wife and bully.
I am not in a situation where I can do anything legal because the bully has not done anything to me...so I have nothing. I can not take this bull crap much longer and the thought that my nephew will has the bully as a teacher, sickens me and I know it will cause more stress to my brother for the next few years. Please advise.