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I am gay and have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. I think

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I am gay and have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. I think my relationship is falling apart, well, I know it is. I love her really very much but we are both making each other miserable & fighting all the time. I am getting tired & thinking about ending it. About a year ago my girlfriend kissed a very close friend of ours. This was something I found quite hard to get over. We are very honest with each other & the betrayal of trust was the biggest issue for me. Around the same time maybe a few weeks before this we were starting to argue a bit more, my girlfriend did not want to have sex as much as before, we used to have a very healthy sex life & since then it has practically disappeared resulting in me feeling embarrassed, ashamed & undesired, I have asked her about it & she says I am putting pressure on her to have sex. But I don't understand what has changed. I now feel as if we are essentially friends, I love her and i want her, but I want more. I don't know what to do.
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Anna replied 7 years ago.

Hey Emmy,

This sounds like the relationship was ending a year ago, but that you two have hung together for the grief & loss part of it. It's time to let it go now. Women will often do this: end the relationship about a year before they stop dating the other person. It helps to not be alone while you're getting over the loss of the hopes & dreams. I suggest a parting of the ways so that you can honor the good times that you had, and leave with grace and dignity.

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