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This question is for Cher. Hi- I am a 61 year old divorced female who has been in a been living with the same man for 9 1/2 years. We have had some problems off and on in the last year - he moved out for a brief period but moved back in to see if we could work things out. He is a Vietnam vet with PTSD and bipolar disorder. Things have been going pretty good but the last few months he goes away for the weekend to visit friends (not female-he says). He won't tell me who he is with or where he is going. He doesn't let me know ahead of time that he is leaving but sends me a text message to tell me he's leaving. He says he is bored and needs his space - he is retired and on partial VA disability. I don't mind him going to visit friends but this not telling me where he is going and not being able to reach him is making me crazy. I try to ask him and he gets upset with me and tells me he is doing nothing wrong. The weekends are the only time we have together. Am I being too sensitive
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