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im married now for 20 days.. the first week was strong sexually

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im married now for 20 days.. the first week was strong sexually between us, but now i dont get the lust sometimes, and when i do it doesnt come easy.. she has no problems as her lust is always present.. what could be a quick and safe solution to give her the pleasure she wants? and what advices should i follow?
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 7 years ago.

Good Morning,


Couples get tired of routines even when it comes to making love. If you feel that there are some issues about the level of desire, try to implement something new.

There are wonderful sex ad videos and books. Also, ask her if she would feel comfortable in using sex toys (many women do) The key is to find out what she likes and how she likes it done.

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
she is a very shy young woman, she wont see videos or use sex toys... its a bit hard for her to do thses things... hope u have an advice or a technique that make me increase my desire levels... otherwise she will be depresed or dissapointed...
Expert:  Dr Rossi replied 7 years ago.

You level of desire may be as a result of different things. Some things affecting libido are lower levels of testosterone and depression. It can also be as a result of having your interest worn out if you pretty much expect the same thing.


It may be helpful to at lest see if she would like to dress up in different lingerie and to have fore play.


Other things men have tried is hypnosis.


There is not one specific technique that works on everyone. The key is to find out the reason behind your most recent change in behavior and address that.

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