At times, it is difficult to understand why someone would ask such a question. There does not appear to be 'one reason' why someone would make such a personal inquiry.
My own opinion, is perhaps this person feels that something is lacking in his, and/or her's, own relationship, and is attempting to 'make an assessment,' by comparison
of another couple's situation.
In my opinion, in a situation like this one, it is always more productive to seek the help of professionals, such as an in-person 'physician,' and/or a 'mental health professional,' than to start posing such a question to another couple.
Asking such a question can make people feel embarrassed, and/or place a strain on the friendship, between the two couples. It can also be a source of 'misinformation,' if a person seeks information from a non-professional.
In my opinion, as stated above, if anyone feels the relationship they are currently in is not going well, they should immediately seek the help of professionals.
A good place to start is for someone to contact his, and/or her's, 'primary care physician.' Also, maybe a 'referral service,' at a nearby hospital. Perhaps the 'physician' or 'referral service' would be able to recommend a competent 'mental health professional,' and/or physician, depending what the situation may be.
If financial affordability is an issue, it is always important for people to mention this when seeking recommendations. This way, maybe they will be able to find competent 'in-person professionals,' who would charge more reasonable fees.
Also, perhaps the 'referral service,' and/or the 'physician,' would be able to recommend 'not-for-profit counseling, and/or medical/heath care centers,' where people could receive some quality 'in-person' medical, and/or counseling, at more affordable fees.
Some centers provide an array of services with more reasonable fees, if any at all. This can include, individual, and group counseling, as well as other services. Also, this may include a variety of 'support groups,' as well as various 'medical services.' (*Every center is different, and the services, and fees, may vary.)
In my opinion, as stated above, it is always better for anyone who may find themselves in this type of situation to seek the help of professionals, rather than attempt to 'make comparisons' with another couple. This can damage a friendship, and/or, provide someone with incorrect information. Every relationship is unique, and/or different. Therefore, people should not attempt to assess their 'own relationship' by comparing themselves to another couple's situation.
In general, as a society, we all have a tendency to start 'making comparisons' to other people in regard to the circumstances in our own life. This same question, could also apply to many different topics, whether it may be about income and finances, child rearing, or the above stated subject.
As stated above, it really serves no constructive purpose when people attempt to assess their own situation which may be too complex for them to handle alone, by comparing their situation, regardless of the subject, to other peoples situations.
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX brought up a very valid topic, that appears to occur often in our society, regardless of the subject.
I hope the above stated comments have been helpful.
Good luck!, and best wishes.
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