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I would suggest staying with him for at least another year before talking about moving in together and the future, it's only been a year and he may think it's just too soon to talk about any of that, since his last relationship didn't last he may be afraid to make such a commitment again without being really sure that things are going to work out so I would say give it six months to a year and then talk about all of this again. You don't want to keep harping on the issue or it will only scare him away and make him shut down so give him some more time. He may not be ready for kids right now but who's to say he won't want them later on down the line. It's more important for the two of you to get to know each other more and make a life together before even considering adding children into the equation. Take your time to make sure yourself that he is the right person for you also, if you take time to make sure the relationship has more of a chance of being successful and long lasting. Not many men take pressure well and often view that as a sign that the woman is always going to pressure them and often time they run because they don't want to live their life like that so make sure you talk about it and aren't demanding that you want these things.
Thank you for the advice. He says that i have been negative recently and he wants me to be a happier person like how i was when we first met. I am trying to be more positive but because I am 32 i keep thinking time is running out for having children. I think i maybe worrying too much. i just don't want him to waste my time if he defnitely doesn't want to have children but I know he hasn't ruled out the wanting of kids. I hope we can make it work :)
Whenever you get the urge to talk about it before it's time think about what he said, he wants you to be the positive person you were when you first met so another words he wants you to go back to the person that attracted him to you in the first place it's okay to have wants and needs but there are many women having children even after forty years of age so you still have some time and like I said give it at least six months to a year and then bring it up again but for now go back to the person he fell in love with in the first place and if you need to talk about it again talk to a trusted friends or clergyman or even a counselor as long as someone is hearing you out, this will keep you from laying it all on him and pushing him away.