A different country is a BIG move when you have a child that young. Is there no way she can move to where you are at? The reason I ask is because your son NEEDS you. I know it is hard when you are in love, but making the choice to have a child is a big responsibility and one you took.....to leave now means that your relationship with this child is and will suffer.
The fact is no matter how good your intentions are a move that far away will prevent you from being a good father to your child. While phone calls and occasional visits are a good thing, the fact is your child needs to be a part of your life and a move like this is going to make that very hard on you.
Being a father isn't about making choices that are good for you........its about being a man and making choices that are in the best interest of your child.
Do you think a move like this is in the best interest of your son?
I know being a father and looking for love is not easy! Being a single father myself I often find myself in situations where something is perfect for me......but not always perfect for my children. The difference is once you have a child you can no longer look at what is perfect for you, but instead what is in the best interest of your son.
As far as your ex, yes once you tell her about this new girl and about moving its going to shut that door likely forever. The fact is you have some big choices to make, but you must man up and make the choices on what is best for your son first.
I don't want to beat you over the head with the responsible father issues.......but your choices now are going to effect this child's life. He did not ask you to come into this world, this is a choice you and his mother made and the fact is you now have to accept those choices you made and be the best father you can be.
I never advise someone to stay with someone else simply because of a child.......you can be a good father to him without being with his mother, but to be a good father you need to be a big part of his life. Living in another country is going to make it very difficult for you to be a big part of his life.
Phone conversations are great........but they can not replace you coming over to see him and playing with him. As he gets older he will need you so much more. He is going to need you there for him to teach him how to be a good man, and that is something you will have trouble doing in this new situation.
I would advise you to sit down and take another good look at all of this. This time considering how you can be the best father you can be. As for your ex, only you know if that is something you are over or not........at the end of the day your choices should always be what is in the best interest of that little boy.