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My partner had an affair and whend I discovered this on his phone he packed up and left me that same day and is now living with her. He has phoned me evryday to see how I am (but not yesterday). He tells me he is not in love with her, but likes her and can talk to her. Should I not answer the phone again and wait and see what happens, or should I talk to him when he calls? I would like him back but on my terms after what has happened.
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