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I am married for about 3 yrs now we have a 2 yrs old which

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I am married for about 3 yrs now we have a 2 yrs old which requires alot of our time, she has some eating issues, so we work with her 24/7. My relationship w my husb started going bad since i was prego and i read on a book that giving oral could give infection to the pregnant woman. Our sex life was great before marriage, now sux big time. I fell like i humiliate myself all the time "BEGGING" for sex. I dont even know what is oral sex anymore!! Thank God i end up w a c-section i couldnt barelly imagine what would happen if him seen a baby coming out of my vagina. All the time we end up having sex either he cums too fast or he cant get an erection, he blames on his lack of sleep and work stress. I have talked to him alot about this issue how i hate to be always me asking/starting sex. I dont even know if i want to be married still, there are just too many things going on, we r filling for bankrupcy and i dont have $$$ for a lawyer to get a divorce.
Submitted: 8 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Cher replied 8 years ago.
Hello, and thanks for your question.

I'm sorry to hear you and your husband are having this trouble.

In addition to not getting enough sleep (I'm sure YOU don't either) and his work stress, plus the stress both of you are under, due to your daughter's health problem, this is affecting his mood and if he's not into it (sex) when you are, he probably feels badly letting you down.

While his physical and emotional state may be adversely affecting your sex life, and you feel as if your marriage is falling apart, it might be possible to save it, if you both want to, by seeing a marriage counselor experienced with the particular issues you're facing.

If money is tight, certain therapists might see you on a sliding scale, meaning they will charge what you can afford.

Along the same lines, if it does come down to you wanting a divorce, contact Legal Aid in your City, to find out if they can help you at no cost or a very minimal cost.

I do hope things work out the way you want them to, and that all will be well with your young daughter.