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why do we fall in love with certain people--people who may

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why do we fall in love with certain people--people who may not be right/appropriate for us? and how do we deal with those feelings that we have for them?   should we tell them how we feel or should we keep those feelings to ourselves? is it wrong to tell someone who may be inappropriate for us as far as a romantic relationship is concerned to let them know that you are interested in them or, again, should you keep it to yourself? if it would be concerned a "boundary violation" to have a relationship with that person you have feelings for, should you disconnect yourself from the immediate "working" relationship if you want a romantic relationship or should you just talk about it with the other person?
Submitted: 8 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Cher replied 8 years ago.

Well, it would depend on your specific situation, of course, but a basic answer could be, that if you feel that person would be inappropriate for you, to be involved in a romantic relationship, especially if others would be hurt, if you told this person how you felt, then you should keep it to yourself.

If a 'working' relationship would be put in jeopardy, and be sacrificed for a romantic relationship, you'd have to determine how important the romantic relationship is to you, and again, consider the other person's feelings, situation, and the future ramifications of your actions, should you decide to go ahead with that.

If you can give a few more details, I could try to help you further.

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