Relationship

Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP

Ask an Expert,
Get an Answer ASAP!

Relationship

My daughter moved to a strange town for the summer for a job

Customer Question
opportunity. She is a...
My daughter moved to a strange town for the summer for a job opportunity. She is a boss for a business and the very first week she interviewed a boy same age as her 20 and hired him. Her secretary told her she noticed he could not take his eyes off of her the entire day of training. He then asked her for a date over the weekend. Since then he has called, sent nice texts to her and has taken her to dinner, breakfast , and even to his house for a movie. This has all been over less than a week. Is it possible that he is attracted to her that badly or is this way too fast?? He is from the south and a total mannerly, respectful gentlemen she says. It is like he waits to be with her. I am a little concerned about his constant attention to her , being in a strange town and all. What do you think??? She is a very pretty girl with a very bubbly personality. He is , according to her, drop dead gorgeous!!!
Submitted: 8 years ago.Category: Relationship
Show More
Show Less
Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Answered in 10 minutes by:
5/5/2009
Counselor: KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert replied 8 years ago
KimberlyF
KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 750
Experience: Relationship expert for almost three years with JustAnswer.com
Verified
Customer

 

Some men from the south are a little different than anywhere else some are more tentative to their women and their needs and making them feel special. I wouldn't worry too much if your daughter feels uncomfortable then I would say something to her but I'm sure she can handle herself and he very well could be falling hard for her. Just tell your daughter you are worried and ask her not to rush anything, she knows what she can handle and what she cannot. If she is pretty and has a great personality to go with that then why wouldn't any man wants someone like that in their life and have the best of both worlds. A week is not a long time to know someone and it could be that he is using all the time to get to know her and see if she is the one, many couples during the first week are trying to spend time to see where things can go. Now if he told her he loves her during that first week then I would be a little worried but alot of men from the south look at relationship much different than men from big cities. All you can do is tell her to be careful and take things slow.

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 8 years ago
SHE IS NOT VERY TRUSTING OF RELATIONSHIPS. SHE HAS HAD SO MANY BAD APPLES THAT SHE FEELS TRUST IS HARD TO HAVE. SHE IS DIABETIC AND WHILE SHE IS NOT FAT, SHE IS A LITTLE CHUNKY WHICH SHE IS ALWAYS SELF CONSCIOUS OF. SHE JUST KEEPS SAYING THAT BECAUSE HE LOOKS LIKE HE DOES, WHY WOULD HE CHOSE SOMEONE WHO IS OVERWEIGHT. WEIGHT HAS ALWAYS BEEN AN ISSUE WITH HER. MY CONCERN IS THAT SHE IS HIS BOSS AND IT MAKES FOR A COMPLICATED PICTURE. BUT HE IS THE ONE WHO IS DOING ALL OF THE PURSING. HE PAYS FOR EVERYTHING AND WILL NOT LET HER PAY FOR ANYTHING. HE TOOK HER TO A BASEBALL GAME AND CHECKED TO SEE WHEN A TEAM FROM OUR STATE PLAYED THAT TEAM AND THEN BOUGHT TWO TICKETS FOR THE GAME IN JUNE. SHE IS JUST NOT USED TO THIS KIND OF ATTENTION. PLUS, HE WAS HIT BY A DRUNK DRIVER LAST YEAR AND HAD A NEAR DEATH EXPERIENCE. I TOLD HER MAYBE HE LOOKS AT THINGS DIFFERENTLY AND APPRECIATES THINGS . I GUESS IT IS A ""MOM"" THING BECAUSE SHE IS FAR AWAY AND HE WAS A COMPLETE STRANGER UNTIL A WEEK AGO. I JUST FIND IT KIND OF ""GUTSY"" TO ASK THE BOSS OUT. AM I WRONG?
Customer reply replied 8 years ago
DOES ANYTHING INDICATE TO YOU THAT HE IS USING HER???
Counselor: KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert replied 8 years ago

Customer

 

That is the sign of a good mother, one that worries about their daughter even when they are grown up and out of the house but as far as this guy is concerned he may have a new lease on life and doesn't sweat the small stuff and he may like a woman with meat on her bones. since he is doing all of the pursuing he was attracted to her and pursued her. Yes you're right asking the boss out may not be the norm but if he was attracted to her he probably didn't want to let the opportunity go and possibly lose her to someone else. It's important that they keep their relationship outside of work so not to get into trouble. Since he is paying for everything I doubt he is using her now if he asks her to help him advance then I would put my foot down if I were your daughter, just tell her to look for warning signs that don't sit well with her like, his behavior changing, getting too aggressive, not paying for things anymore, touchy feely at work, asking for things he didn't ask for before. If those thing happen I would suggest to your daughter to reconsider that relationship and be careful not to be alone with him at work because if things get bitter she doesn't want him to file a sexual harassment case against her.

Ask Your Own Relationship Question
Customer reply replied 8 years ago
AS I SAID, I AM NOT A MOTHER WHO RUNS RELATIONSHIPS BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN HER BECOME SO INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND HE OBVIOUSLY IS THE SAME SO FAST!! SHE ASSURES ME HE IS A GENTLEMAN AND VERY POLITE AND NOT PUSHY. SHE SAID THE WAY HE TREATS HER IS SOOOO DIFFERENT THAN SHE HAS BEEN TREATED BEFORE--OPENS DOORS, LETS HER GO IN FIRST, ETC. BUT I TOLD HER THAT IS THE SOUTHERN STYLE COMING OUT IN HIM. SHE LOOKS AT IT AS HE WANTS SOMETHING AND QUESTIONS EVERYTHING. I AM AFRAID IT COULD RUIN A GOOD THING IF SHE DOES NOT GIVE HIM SOME SLACK I GUESS THAT SHE JUST HAS TO GO WITH HER GUT INSTINCT. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.
Customer reply replied 8 years ago
AS I SAID, I AM NOT A MOTHER WHO RUNS RELATIONSHIPS BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN HER BECOME SO INTO A RELATIONSHIP AND HE OBVIOUSLY IS THE SAME SO FAST!! SHE ASSURES ME HE IS A GENTLEMAN AND VERY POLITE AND NOT PUSHY. SHE SAID THE WAY HE TREATS HER IS SOOOO DIFFERENT THAN SHE HAS BEEN TREATED BEFORE--OPENS DOORS, LETS HER GO IN FIRST, ETC. BUT I TOLD HER THAT IS THE SOUTHERN STYLE COMING OUT IN HIM. SHE LOOKS AT IT AS HE WANTS SOMETHING AND QUESTIONS EVERYTHING. I AM AFRAID IT COULD RUIN A GOOD THING IF SHE DOES NOT GIVE HIM SOME SLACK I GUESS THAT SHE JUST HAS TO GO WITH HER GUT INSTINCT. THANK YOU FOR YOUR HELP.
Counselor: KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert replied 8 years ago
Customer

 

What she is going to have do is learn through his actions whether she can trust him or not, trust is earned and not given so she has to take that approach. If you are afraid she will sabotage the relationship because of trust issues then what she can do is talk to him about her past and what she went through in relationships and ask him if he isn't serious about dating her then don't hesitate to tell her before she gets her feelings involved. She can tell him all she expects is honesty and respect that is all she can ask for. Relationship are all about taking chances and she can be cautious but trusting just watch for change.

KimberlyF
KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 750
Experience: Relationship expert for almost three years with JustAnswer.com
Verified
KimberlyF and 87 other Relationship Specialists are ready to help you
Ask your own question now
Ask KimberlyF Your Own Question
KimberlyF
KimberlyF
KimberlyF, Longtime Relationship Expert
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 750
750 Satisfied Customers
Experience: Relationship expert for almost three years with JustAnswer.com

KimberlyF is online now

A new question is answered every 9 seconds

How JustAnswer works:

  • Ask an ExpertExperts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional AnswerVia email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction GuaranteeRate the answer you receive.

JustAnswer in the News:

Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.

What Customers are Saying:

Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help.

Mary C.Freshfield, Liverpool, UK

This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!!

AlexLos Angeles, CA

Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult.

GPHesperia, CA

I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion.

JustinKernersville, NC

Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around.

EstherWoodstock, NY

Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know.

RobinElkton, Maryland

He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here.

DianeDallas, TX

< Previous | Next >

Meet the Experts:

TherapistMaryAnn

TherapistMaryAnn

Counselor

1,720 satisfied customers

Over 20 years experience specializing in anxiety, depression, drug and alcohol, and relationship issues

Ms Chase

Ms Chase

Life Coach

853 satisfied customers

Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues

Alicia_MSW

Alicia_MSW

Psychotherapist

468 satisfied customers

Specializing in relationship/family counseling

Dr. Norman Brown

Dr. Norman Brown

Marriage Therapist

427 satisfied customers

Family Therapist & teacher 35+ yrs; PhD research in couples

Dr. L

Dr. L

Psychologist

366 satisfied customers

Licensed as a Psychologist and Marriage & Family Therapist.

Suzanne

Suzanne

Therapist, LCSW

338 satisfied customers

Experienced in treating trauma, relationship issues, co-dependency

DrJackiePhD

DrJackiePhD

Doctor

338 satisfied customers

I have been doing research in relational/interpersonal communication since 1998. My Ph.D. is in interpersonal communication.

< Previous | Next >

Related Relationship Questions
I am a 38-year-old male and work full-time in
Hello I am a 38-year-old male and work full-time in law-enforcement. Over five years ago I met a woman through my work and her daughter was 11 at the time. She was with somebody then so I thought noth… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
If he doesnt want to be in a relationship with me, why
If he doesnt want to be in a relationship with me, why doesnt he leave instead of giving me false hope?… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
Whenever I'm talking to a girl, I get incredibly jealous
Whenever I'm talking to a girl, I get incredibly jealous when they mention or are with hanging other guys. (I'm a 20 year old guy) I don't know why though, I don't like getting jealous but I can't hel… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
If you are there I would like to describe the situation,
Jen, if you are there I would like to describe the situation, which I asked you about yesterday, in more detail as I would value your opinion.… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
A few weeks ago I received a message from a guy that I dated
second opinion] Hi. A few weeks ago I received a message from a guy that I dated very casually before he moved about 1 ½ years ago to California from Ohio & since then we really didn't stay in touch. … read more
Therapist Leslie
Therapist Leslie
Masters, Professional Psychology
5 satisfied customers
Before I was officially dating my boyfriend I was flirting
Before I was officially dating my boyfriend I was flirting with another guy while I was talking to my current boyfriend. I never told him and tried to hide it. Now he knows and is questioning my trust… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
Is my gf avoidant attachment type or secure... or a little
Is my gf avoidant attachment type or secure... or a little of each? Im an insecure anxious attachment type for sure.... i always need reassurance and stuff from my gf... my gf in the beginning was alr… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
We are not dating but I've known him for 15 years, we met at
We are not dating but I've known him for 15 years, we met at work I thought he was good looking we hit it off as friends. He had me staying over his place a lot, then I found out he was gay/bi I start… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
My question is about a possible beginning to a relationship.
Hello this is Brian, my question is about a possible beginning to a relationship … read more
Therapist Leslie
Therapist Leslie
Masters, Professional Psychology
5 satisfied customers
Is it normal for your boyfriend to constantly have his ex
Is it normal for your boyfriend to constantly have his ex girlfriend come over to visit even though you tell him to it really bothers you… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
My girlfriend of 10 years suddenly broke up. I have
My girlfriend of 10 years suddenly broke up. I have chirldren with a previous partner and we still keep the family house and gather. But my family has not accepted my new partner 'although she is ever… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
Boyfriend of 1 year newly divorced from unhappy 30+year
Boyfriend of 1 year newly divorced from long unhappy 30+year marriage told me he keeps thinking bout old girlfriend and how he has always wondered about her and how/where she is. … read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
A few weeks ago I received a message from a guy that I dated
Hi. A few weeks ago I received a message from a guy that I dated very casually before he moved about 1 ½ years ago to California from Ohio & since then we really didn't stay in touch. So I was a bit s… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
My wife goes to a high-end restaurant bar / restaurant on a
My wife goes to a high-end restaurant bar / restaurant on a Sunday for brunch, She start 3 hours and gets rather trashed with her alcoholic Mother of which we do not like each other. Keep in mind that… read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
Not sure how to move on from this if he cant trust me. Ok,
not sure how to move on from this if he cant trust me. Ok, My boyfriend and I and my two teenage daughters live together. I gave him the consent to record my daughter because we were trying to catch h… read more
Therapist Leslie
Therapist Leslie
Masters, Professional Psychology
5 satisfied customers
I've never been in a real relationship and it just seems
I've never been in a real relationship and it just seems like I can't get any woman to like me or want to date me. I want to know how I can approach women and get dates? I'm really all about chivalry … read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
I have a problem i need an advice I met a man after really
Hello , i have a problem i need an advice I met a man after really hard time of separation with my husband . This man is separated too but he still in contact with his wife because of the kids ..any h… read more
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
JohnMichaels,MS,LPC
Counselor
Master\u0027s Degree
170 satisfied customers
I would like to know something. My wife of 35 yrs received a
my wife of 35 yrs received a very intimate necklace fro m anoth er women and she told her she was drawing inspiration from her just by wearing it what does that mean … read more
TherapistJen
TherapistJen
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Master\u0027s Degree
953 satisfied customers
Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Disclaimer: Information in questions, answers, and other posts on this site ("Posts") comes from individual users, not JustAnswer; JustAnswer is not responsible for Posts. Posts are for general information, are not intended to substitute for informed professional advice (medical, legal, veterinary, financial, etc.), or to establish a professional-client relationship. The site and services are provided "as is" with no warranty or representations by JustAnswer regarding the qualifications of Experts. To see what credentials have been verified by a third-party service, please click on the "Verified" symbol in some Experts' profiles. JustAnswer is not intended or designed for EMERGENCY questions which should be directed immediately by telephone or in-person to qualified professionals.

Show MoreShow Less

Ask Your Question

x