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The lies that you told aren't really as serious as you may think they are, you being separated when you meant should not matter you were not with your husband and the marriage was pretty much over and as far as where you work depending on what you do it shouldn't be that big of a deal. Honesty is always the best policy when you are trying to have a long term relationship with someone. It is bothering you much more knowing you lied than the actual lies, I don't think he will leave if you were to tell him the truth. About the lie about the acquaintance he may be more relieved that you didn't meet him than if you did. Tell him that you wanted to see how much he cared about you and then apologize. This is nothing you cannot work through but in order to have his trust you have to always be honest with him even if you think he is going to get angry, with lies you have to cover your lies with other lies and then it's much harder to keep track of the lies that you told.
You need to sit him down and tell him EVERYTHING so that you can go on with the relationship with a clear conscience and know that you are not holding anything back from him or the relationship. Tell him that you were unsure about the relaitonship and a little bit insecure and that those are the reasons you lied. He may be angry at first but he loves you, you could have done worst things like cheat, been a criminal but you told some little white lies and now is the time to come clean for the sake of your relationship and making things right.