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She's an account executive for some bank. I know she's pretty high up. She's responsible for setting up new accounts in some way or another. She's gone quite a bit.
The kids alternate every other week with the separation. When she is gone they will stay with her husband or our parents. (He's on the road with his job, too.) Her and her husband seem to be pretty competitive when it comes to their jobs.
I'm her sister. I'm 27. She is 35.
Historically speaking, we were not close when we were growing up, probably because of the age difference. We are getting closer though, up until this started happening. She seems to be isolating herself from our entire family.
She always seemed to be happily married. Her and her husband used to be a great pair. Upon returning to her job after she had her second child she really steeped herself in her work. I can't get a solid signal from her, really. She'll talk about the counseling and the problems in the same breath as her concerns over the decor in her new apartment. And what she says about the relationship seems to imply she'd like to see it work sometimes and at other times she talks like its a lost cause. She's really non-chalant and inaffective when talking about it too. It's disturbing for our family to see and hear.I know she is an adult and can make decisions on her own and I haven't said anything one way or another about when visiting with her. I simply try to listen and ask very few questions. I don't want to make things worse for her only better.
To more specifically answer your question about our closeness: We live in the same city and usually just get together to run or rarely just to hang out. We see each other often, but not as often as we were. Its been weird and awkward the last few times. I try to express an open attitude to make her comfortable. But then she just talks about her new chaise lounge and such.