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I wanted to find out if he really love me or not - I NEED SOMEONE WHO CAN TRANSLATE HIS EMAIL TO ME.
Im so bothered of his reply, and not sure if he really mean what he wrote. Please read his mail "i paste and attched it on top"
Reading his email and thinking about what he said in that email it seems as though he is torn between his current girlfriend and you but he wants to be there for you and do the right thing if you are indeed pregnant he wants to take care of you and the child, if it is you that is pregnant do you know how far along you are or if you are definitely pregnant? I think he is basing his decision on the fact of whether or not he will be a father but if he isn't that he won't know what to do after that. What you both need to do is to go make sure that he is truly going to be a father and then work things out from there. He is going to have to make a final decision and not lead two people on. I'm not really understand the email is he dating you and cheated on you or is he with someone else and cheated on them with you could a explain a little more the situation. I will try to help you as much as I can and as long as it takes to get you the answers you want.
First and foremost, communication is key in saving your relationship; without it, there is no hope at all. Simply listening and hearing each other can make the greatest amount of difference in working through this issue and communication ultimately comes down to making time for each other and talking through this together. Sometimes, professional therapy is necessary in saving your relationship. There are deep issues that you need help working through, especially and unexpected pregnancy and the fact that he has someone else in his life also. There is no shame in seeking therapy, having someone who can stay neutral and give advice without judgment can help make a little more sense. An objective third party can often help you reach a place of understanding that you can not do on your own. Saving your relationship should be worth any work that you need to do; ultimately what is at stake can be a loving and committed union that will bring you happiness.
It's okay to question his love especially if he is dating someone else along with you. There is a point in every woman's life when she questions the amount of love her mate has for her. Men from the childhood are told to suppress their feelings, they are not allowed to express their emotions, which for a man is a sign of weakness and on the contrary women are more expressive. Women expect the men to express their love as they do. Men can't respond in the same way, but it does not mean that his love is any less. It's just a question of expression; men show their love they don't like to speak about it. Men show it in their actions by doing things that he thinks would make her happy. Men like to be told that they are good and the best, XXXXX XXXXX to be of value and it matters to him that among all, you value him. Always listen to his words and make him feel important. Men respect woman who know their feelings and who are comfortable with themselves. If you still want to know how to make him love you more, then be yourself, be a bit mysterious and respect and value him.