Have Relationship Questions? Ask a Counselor for Answers ASAP
Have you thought about couple's therapy? It sounds like you and your partner could use some help in communicating clearly with each other around what you want/need/expect from one another. Having a newborn baby, as wonderful as it is, creates a lot of new stressors on a relationship. It can also create dramatic changes in your identity and self-image- when you become Mom, and are also a partner, sometimes women lose their sense of themSELVES as separate people.
I would suggest that you both seek out a psychologist who can work with you and your partner as a couple, and also work on rebuilding your sense of self through connecting with friends, getting out by yourself, exercising, etc.