replied 8 years ago.
Hello again, Victoria, and thanks for your reply with additional and helpful information about your situation.
If you sense that his feelings for you have cooled down and you're seeing him less frequently when he's home from his work travel, I think you need to discuss this with him.
While I understand that you like him a lot and don't want to lose him, at the same time, you don't want to 'expect' to see him every time he's home, and then be disappointed. You also have the right to know if he's seeing other women, in addition to you. I think, at this time, it IS important that you speak to him about where your relationship is at, at this time, and where it is going, but you do need to be careful in how you choose your words. Asking him about 'now' is one thing, but asking him where the relationship is going, may scare him off, as most men are afraid of commitment; so, beginning a discussion re: why he doesn't seem as anxious to see you when he's home, recently, and ask him if you've done anything to hurt his feelings or upset him, that you're unaware of. If you start out this way, like, did *I* do something wrong?, if he says 'no', then you can ask him, why are we not seeing each other as much, lately? I miss seeing you.
He might tell you what you don't want to hear, that his feelings have cooled and he doesn't want to see you as much, or anymore, but, as hurtful as that may be, at least you'd know the truth and you can move on. He might say he's been really busy when he's home, etc., etc., which is fine, and don't push it too much at that time, but continue to communicate with him while he's away and wait for him to ask you to do something when he's home. If he doesn't call YOU, try not to call HIM. Let him wonder what YOU are up to, when he's not home, and also, when he's home.
Will he be home for Valentine's Day? Do you celebrate that holiday where you live? If so, see what he sends you or gives you (flowers, chocolate, etc.) and/or if you get together. If you know he'll be home, make up with him NOW, to see him on Saturday night to celebrate Valentine's Day.
I hope some of my advice has helped, but remember, you're in the 'live' situation, so you need to 'feel' it out and interpret his 'signals' and reactions to what you say, in order to get a better feel of where he is, in your relationship.
I hope things work out the way you want them too!
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