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-How long did the fling with the other man last?
-Have you talked to the other man since?
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You are going to have to figure out which one of the two would treat you better and be there for you since the other guy was a fling I don't know if he will be open for a long distance monogamist relationship. You say your current boyfriend has prove to be trustworthy and loving and caring, are you sure if you were to choose the other guy that he would be the same as you have now. You don't really want to give up a good thing for something or someone that you're not as sure about. Could it be that you're just attracted to the forbidden the fact that you cannot have him right now because he is back in England and you're not sure if he even wants you the way your current boyfriend wants you? I think you might have liked the spontaneity the other guy had and you are attracted to that aspect in him. What you should do is make out a list of things you like in a man and think about each guy and write the name of the man that has the trait you like and if one out weighs the other than you pretty much have you decision sitting in front of you on paper. Maybe plan to meet the other guy for lunch just as friend to see if there is still a connection or more of a connect than your current boyfriend and you have. There is nothing wrong with having lunch with a friend just make sure you don't end up having another fling that will only confuse things more.
This is why you need to meet with the other guy you had a fling with to make sure that there is no longer that attraction and try to find closure if closure is what you need to move on. I think you should do both make the list and make plan to meet him one last time before you make any major decisions about moving to where your boyfriend is, you have to do this before you move. At the lunch ask the other guy what he expects in the future what he wants to do and where he wants to be. How he feels about relationships, he may not even be looking for anything serious and may feel comfortable with the way his life is and doesn't want that to change. It will put your mind more at ease if you do this even if it's just for closure, depending on the list and what the outcome of the list is.
I think it's better to allow those feelings to happen over a period of time. I think your feelings for the guy you had a fling with is more of a lust thing. Your attraction is possibly a sexual attraction and you may be confusing your feelings with true feeling because your meeting was so intense. If your boyfriend seems more reliable as far as what you really want out of a relationship but you won't know what the other guy wants unless you talk to him.