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We all say things we don't mean to say when we are fed up or angry and though you may have said your true feelings it may have been the way you worded it that hurt him the most and he may have wanted an apology for the hurtful things you may have said about him I don't think he wanted you to apologize for his friends just the things you said about him because he may feel that you don't hurt the people you love. He was hurt because he felt you were dismissing the things and people that were important to him and judging him through them. Maybe you should be the bigger person and apologize sometimes in relationship we have to apologize for the things we said or did in angry even when we feel or know we are right. It's part of compromising in a relationship or marriage. What are you are going to have to do is call or write him and apologize for being so critical of him this way you aren't apologizing for being truthful just the way you said it to him and tell him that you didn't mean to hurt him the way that you did and would never hurt him on purpose. Tell him you were being bull headed and stubborn at the time and didn't want to give in, if he sees that you realize your part in the break up he may be more willing to talk things out, now he is being stubborn because he wants an apology and you weren't willing to give it to him.
The fact that you want him back you may need to accept him for who he is and whom he associates with. He may not like all of your friends but may be willing to accept them because they were your friends before he came along and who is he to want to change all of your friends maybe you should see him like that also. Also even though it may not be simple to do, do not act desperate. Try not talking to your ex and give him some time after you apologize so that he can think. It is best not to look and act desperate, instead of getting your ex back, you might just end up chasing them further away from you. The easiest way to get him back is to find out what qualities you have that drove them away in the first place. Find out what it was that you did wrong and don't find excuses for your actions. You have to plainly let down your mask and sort yourself out so that you don't make the same mistake twice. Sometimes we have to accept a person we love and all of their flaws in order to have a happy and healthy relationship.
Try to reach out yet a few more times to him and hope he will answer your call. Yes it can be frustrating but don't give up; it may make you think there is no hope especially when you are the one who's making the attempts to reach out. Once you reach this stage stop making calls and take a long break. Then perhaps your ex will start thinking that you are no longer pining for him and he will start calling you before you break free completely. Things may appear quite hopeless right now but wait for this to come from him that he is done. Maybe your ex is just adamant and will not give in easily. Do not give up hope, call him on the phone and if you can't get through leave a message telling him how much you miss him. Everybody argues and fights at some stage of their relationship; a quarrel is no reason to break up a relationship. True love will always stand the test of time. After hearing your message and if he truly loved you he will respond. If he does not then you may need to give him more time or possibly decided if you are willing to wait and continue to try to get him back. He broke up with you because he was fed up and felt you didn't care about his feelings or what he wanted and he is hurt right now. What you are going to have to do is prove to him that you have his best interest at heart before he will consider taking you back or communicating with you.