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Trust is such an important part of a relationship and what makes that relationship stable. When it has been broken because of infidelity, it will take time, much patience and hard work to regain and rebuild that trust with your partner. If you want to have any chance at all of saving your relationship or make your relationship succeed. Your partner has been unfaithful and cheated on you and you are probably feeling a lot of different emotions, anger, sadness, fear of it happening again. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and tell your partner how you are feeling. It's normal to feel this way, take some time to work through your feelings and then decide what you want from your relationship. Also your partner needs to take responsibility for his actions and realize that he has hurt you in he worse ways possible and try to prove to you that he can be trusted again just because you did not leave make sure he knows what he did was very wrong.
Since the two of you have made the decision to stay together, you both will need to realize that it will take hard work and patience before things are better. Both of you will need to be honest and understanding with each other. If you have been cheated on, let your partner know you feelings and what you expect from your relationship. Try listening to his reasons for what led up to his infidelity so you don't continue to wonder why and how it happened, you will need to let go of the past and you will need to put your trust in your partner in order to move forward. If you haven't asked the questions then made you should have that be part of your healing finding the answer to your questions. If you have chosen to forgive him then you have to be able to let go of what happened and move on from there. It's evident that you didn't give yourself the proper time to heal from this if you are still hurting from it but if you bring this back up after a year your partner may think you will never get over it. I think it hurt so much because it was a friend of yours.