First a couple of years ago she and a couple of friends took a trip to Arizona, she did attended an siminar which was the reason for her to go, which is the area he lived at the time and she told me that she meet up with him and had dinner and then next moring they all her and her freinds went to breakfast togethert. Let me add that I hunt alot during this time of the year and am gone alot on weekends. This got me real supicious so I start snooping, I checked her cell phone records for months before this and discovered, she would have hours of call when I was out of town talking to him and had also found on her company email address emails to and from him with attachments of pictures her to him him. Also had email that she was to meet him at Houston airport (the city we live in) but for some reason it did not work out. At that time I confronted her about it and she said that it was only a freindly realation ship, I really got upset and let me emotions flow , she said that if it brother me she would end communications with him. Let me also add this was a very close boyfriend when she was 18 we got together when she was 20 an married a year and half later. This is just some background info.
So I really felt like she did stop for a while but have not ideal how again she has been communicating with him, it may have never stopped for all i know. I ust know she was not calling him on her cell phone.
Now for the current.
She and one of the same friends took a trip to Michagan to this friends condo on Lake Michagan, she flew herself, the friend and her husband drove, husband went hunting so her freinds had some girl friends over since this is the hometown she is from. I again got suspicious so i checked our debit card records and discover a charge for a pay phone charge to him, i called and got the number she called and traced it and it was to him and now he lives in across the Lake Michagan. I now got even more supicious so i bought a recorder for our home phone about a month and a half ago had had been checking on a regular basis and found nothing so was getting pretty comfortable. Last night i listened to a tape that i had not listened to and discovered a conversation between them the night before i was going out of town about a month ago on Wednesday night and he was at the Marriot by airport and had come in to just see her, i was sick about it but did not let her know and have not discussed it with her. Let me add she very involved with our church and i may be naive but i just can not believe she is having sex with him but i have no proof either way. On this message she was going to his hotel room the next day at meeting him at 2 or so, leaving work early, she got his room number twice which she said she forgot the first time. He did call her beautiful when they were ending call. I was out of town that day Thursday at an out of town job and from there going to my hunting lease. They could have been together Thursday and Friday, but i am pretty sure I called her at home that night and she was at home.
I have not discussed anything with her and i might add we have a great relationship and our sex life is great, we work together and get along great, i am so comfused. I take care of her very well and give her alot of attention. Please help!