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Before thinking the relationship is definitely over it is time to contact her and tell her that you would like to talk to her about everything, you either need to know if you have a second chance or even a chance of a second chance or if it is over you want closure and answers as to why. She may have thought because you didn't contact her that you didn't care to have a second chance or even talk things out and that is why it's going on four weeks now, she may have been waiting for you to contact her as well as you waiting for her to call you this is were the lack of communication is really destroying your relationship and any chance of another chance. it's time to call her or text her and ask her to meet you make it for lunch or dinner so that you have one on one time and can talk about the relationship and where it is going from here. You should reserve yourself also to the fact that she may have already move on and just wants it to be over.
She feels as if you took the relationship for granted and didn't take her hints that the relationship was in jeopardy seriously and therefor did not care about the relationship or her and now you have to convince her that wasn't the case at all and if she feels that is what you did then you will work on making that aspect of your relationship better and no longer take her for granted. This could be your make or break it opportunity so try not to find excuse and admit to your fault in the relationship break up, this will show her that you are admitting you had faults and not making excuses. You have to get her to talk to you face to face and not through text message or over the phone.
Normally I would say the same thing but there is a time limit as to how long you make her wait and not contact her it's been four weeks and you haven't heard anything from her at all and you have not contacted her. Evidently this is not working and it may backfire and she will think oh well just move on. It's been almost a month not a few weeks that makes a big difference, how long would you wait for her to contact you, a few months, a year? In most cases absence makes the heart grow founder but you have to realize she was already fed up with the way she felt you were neglecting her and now you're not contacting her what is that going to make her feel like? There are different answers for different circumstances, if she was already feeling neglected what would not calling her at all make her feel like?
You not contacting her before made her text you to ask how you are and your answer was "I'm fine", she may have felt you are fine without her it depends on the thinking of the woman as to how to handle the situation, if a woman is already feeling neglected and ignored what would she think if you totally ignored her? That no contact rule should only last a couple of weeks not a month, what she wanted was for you to show her you cared about her and would do anything to make her happy and all she has gotten was no contact this may have her feelings as though nothing has changed and you are still taking her for granted. When she made the initial contact maybe you could have said "I'm fine beside missing you." Just to show her that you are thinking about her and still care.
You're right it's due or die time now, I don't think it's a good idea to keep texting her you should call her on the phone or go to where she is and try to talk to her face to face. The texting hasn't worked and maybe she wants you to make more of an effort. This will show her that you are willing to do whatever it takes. When or if you do get in contact with her makes sure to let her know that you have missed her. Yes ask her to meet for lunch or dinner and have flowers for her but if you were to talk to her on the phone or face to face you could get a feel for if it is time to fight or give up by the tone of her voice. It's crucial not to wait any longer it's been four weeks make sure she is free to talk and hasn't' found someone else. If you decide to text her make it sound like you really would like to see her and talk things out but try to talk to her on the phone or in person first.
You're quite welcome and I wish you Good Luck.