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It sounds like you are doing the right thing because if you notice when you were the one calling and wanting answer it got you know where but pushing her further away and when you made up your mind to try the no contact she ended up contacting you and seeming frustrated about everything that has happened what I suggest to you is, make yourself seem needy. Even though you may feel the need to tell your ex that you can't live without her, there is no point in telling her that. Instead stay strong, let your ex see that you are okay by yourself, and show everyone around you that you have self confidence and you are happy within yourself. Being needy or desperate will only push her further away, so make sure to maintain your confidence this will make her crawl right back to you.
Also you need to do some soul searching during this time ask yourself why you want to get back together. Is there still any love there? Also think about what part you played in the cause of the breakup so not to make the same mistake twice if she does come back to you. It's good that the two of you went on an activity you may have enjoyed previously as a couple. This will allow her to see what she is missing out on by not being with you and will remind her how good your relationship used to be. If you do get back together start fresh, let the past be the past. Bring yourself back to the initial feelings you had when you first met her. If you can't forgive, then there is no point in going back.
Don't have high expectation of how things are suppose to go, take baby steps and this way she will be able to see how good the relationship was and what she has given up. Actually your are not totally powerless it takes a alot of restraint to be able to act as if you are okay when deep down inside you want things back the way they were. I don't think she is playing any games with you and I think she is seriously missing what you had give it more time before asking about the relationship aspect. Think about it when you begged and pleaded she did nothing but when you acted as if you were okay and could be okay without her she contacted you so who is really in control of the situation, you are, you're no longer acting needy but stronger, you make her make the first move and contact and she does, just give it more time maybe a few months and then have the talk and if she pushes away then you will know it isn't the time for that discussion.
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