Thank you for getting back to me.
Of course there are other means of achieving what you want to do.
You stated you had a hard time being able to say what you want to say 95% of the time, and you attribute this to your personality, in that you are shy and put other people ahead of you.
A certain amount of listening and letting others go first is useful, but it can reach a point where you are saying yes sir to others and being self-deprecating. Because you are asking this question, it shows you have reached a point where you have become dysfunctional to a point. That is what it seems anyway, but only you really know.
People spend many years sometimes trying to learn new ways of being and making changes to personality. You can do it alone or with help from others. The paths to self-awareness and personal growth are many.
So yes, I could have also suggested psycho therapy, or intensive group processes such as offered by the "Wright Institute of personal growth and development" where you go to week long retreats using meditation, and structured exercises designed to gain insight, enlightenment, re birthing,and build on self esteem and assertiveness.
You can do it by accessing your own internal switch, that we all have, that is to turn off the old behavior and focus on what your new behaviors should be. So through self help books, meditation consistent with your religion and philosophy, and prayer, you can cause change to happen. But in all cases, we all need a guide to get us there. Whether that guide is found in a book, with a therapist, a friend, inner-self through mediation or reflection, and so forth, we need to put thought and motivation into action.
While in Special Forces, because of that unique special operations military environment, I needed to become what I was not. I looked in the mirror, and saw I was not that type of person. What was I doing there? I had to achieve such a high level of intention, to stalk, to survive, to do what special ops does, that I wanted to run away. We had the training, the guidance, the process through the courses, instruction, and camaraderie. It was through Zen meditation, where I was able to visualize a new way of being.
To make the changes you want in your life, you have to visualize it, but you also have to have structure and guidance. I suggested toastmasters and debate team as inexpensive paths to achieve what you want to achieve. The fact that you resist those suggestions, is evidence to me, of the underlying problem.
These programs, offer you guidance, structure, training, peer support, encouragement, and a guided path to success, the outcome of which is greater self-esteem, assertiveness, and greater communication skills; you will become less shy.
So if these programs will not work for you. My question to you is, what will?
How do you want to change?
What will work for you?
How do you want to do it?