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Right now he is not available to come back to you since he is dating someone else. The fact that he can move on so easily after dating you may be a sign that he may not be coming back and while you were dating you were starting to see the first signs of mental abuse, put downs, degrading comments in from of his family, also you were not taken on dates and courted and didn't feel like he was making an effort to make you feel wanted. You rarely went places or did things together. When he expressed his love for you he takes back what he said as if it meant nothing to him.
Some of the signs a relationship is not going to work were there like: you were stood up for dates and he didn't call to say he wasn't coming or if he doesn't take into consideration you feelings before hurting them and if you have a misunderstanding, he ends your relationship rather than talking it out, and the fact that he moved on to this ex so fast after you broke up makes me think he was talking to her before the two of you broke up. he wont' be any good for you or anyone else if he isn't good for himself. He wasn't respecting you or your feelings and things weren't going right and he said he wanted and needed space and then started dating someone else. This is not the type of person that is going to be there for you and though he sounds confused and unsure about what he wants living with another woman is not going to help him figure out his feelings but make him more confused. It seems as though he can not be alone for long because he is afraid of being alone and lonely. This is something that he is going to have to work out on his own.
You have to want better for yourself someone that will love you and respect you it doesn't sound like he even respects himself telling you that you are too good for him right now. When you go into another relationship without fixing the one you left never solves anything only makes it worse and this is what your ex is going through right now not knowing if he is making the right decision or pick the right woman. You are going to have to tell him that you will not wait forever for him to make up his mind and then try to move on and get pasted this especially if he has moved the other woman into his apartment. For now you have to consume your time with something else, hang out with friends, put your energies into your work or hobbies, don't waste your life sitting around waiting for him when he is sitting on the fence you may find yourself wasting years waiting for him.