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I think she just wants to make the best out of her trip to Spain and doesn't want to feel guilty if she doesn't call everyday or have to check in with you to her whereabouts, you are just going to have to give her this time to fully experience Spain and trust in her love for you that it will lead her back to you. If you hold her back from this experience or complain about her experience she will grow to resent you for not allowing her to be herself and be free to experience this opportunity. I think if you love her you will wait for her to be done with her trip to Spain and then see where things stand after she comes back, she will respect that you gave her space and allowed her to be free to do this. All couples fight it's healthier to openly communicate and be honest with each other, she was honest about what she wanted. Just tell her how much you love and care for her and want the best for her and then allow her this time to explore Spain on her own. If you have anything to add click reply.
I'm sorry I misunderstood I thought you meant she was in Spain now. She started dating you at 18 years old so she may feel like she has missed out on alot of things and that may include dating other guys, it seems as though she wants you wait for her to be ready but the most important question is are you ready to wait for her to be ready? Depending on how long the wait your answer should be yes you will wait if you love her but how much of your life are you willing to put on hold for her? You don't want to find yourself sitting at home waiting for her to come back to the relationship and then realize that months and months or even years have passed, try getting out with friends and having a good time, why should she be the only one that wants to live life?
Sometimes when women start dating at a young age they find themselves regretting not getting out there and dating especially if their mate was thekir first or they didn't have much experience with dating they want to know if they are missing anything, this may be the case with your girlfriend. I say wait for a little bit and see where things end up, I think she is honestly telling you what she wants and that is time to be free and explore. Give her at least a month and then start doing your own things slowly, hang out with friends, go to movies or dinner with friends, find hobbies to keep you busy so that you don't harp on the situation. If after a month she has not made up her mind then ask her how long she thinks she will need and if she can not answer that then I would serious think about dating other people or taking steps to back away from the relationship, only you will know how much you are able to take as far as the waiting game goes.
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