Thank you Chase.
No we are no longer seeing each other since February. This is a much longer situation than your system would allow so bear with me please. She maintains a "boyfriend" in another state who she said was coming to live with her. She wanted our relationship to continue, but I had told myself that if her relationship with him looked like it would continue, then I was bowing out. Since then I have learned of many occasions where she conducted leasons and with many men I know and work with. There were hints of unfaithfulness while we were together as well. Her "boyfriend" she says is impotent and although she says she loves him,she says he knows of and approves of her sexual variants (women included). He never moved here, and either they just can't get along or he is her excuse to claim single status. She has told some of the men; she is looking for a sperm donor. She is excellant with kids and it is part of her work. I know she wants kids, but has told me she believes a family is a mother and children...no father. She is currently involved with a friend who is bound to be hurt like a few of us have. She is off this week seeing the "boyfriend", and even though I won't say anything to my friend about this (he probably knows) I know he has also fallen for her charms and will be hurt. I will of course get over this, but it is still in my mind and I don't easily fall out of love. I have told myself and her that I am tired of burning bridges and wish to keep a friendship. I still believe that is a good thing, but am flustered at my own hurt still, and the possibility she is going to hurt others...there is also the danger of STDs out there of course and that is why I require monogomous relationships.
I was 58, she is 40. Her "boyfriend" is 56. She has a lot of older men in her life...as well as younger men...and women.
No she didn't tell me she cheated on me. I don't know for a fact that she did, but it was evident she would as she had told me she was into a "European" sexual lifestyle. I suppose that could be said as polyamorous. I ain't, so we don't. During our relationship the stars shone, the sky was blue, songs rhymed etc...and she told me she loved me, but said not to tell anyone. I was sad to see it end and am still I suppose, but I cannot be involved emotionally with someone like that. I suppose my question to you is the same...in the old days I would smoke a joint and just move on, but I don't do that anymore and am serious about finding someone to love and be loved in return. I am just hurt and feel like it isn't worth the effort anymore. Sorry for the long relpy, but hey thats what it is.