I had a situation arise this past weekend that in a way excites…
I had a situation arise...
I had a situation arise this past weekend that in a way excites me and confuses me at the same time. I am 24 year old male and I am new to the area were I live in now, and have been here for about a month and a half now. This passed Friday night I was out doing what I usually do on the weekends, out for a few drinks with a couple of buddies. I was at the bar ordering a drink and I had noticed these 2 girls across the bar looking at me kind of smiling. I found the one girl to be very attractive. I did not take action right away but about an hour later I saw the two girls in a different section of the bar, so I went up to talk to them, before I know it I am sitting in between the girls having good conversation. In this conversation I find that the girl that caught my eye as being very attractive had just got a job down here and is moving down next week. She and her friend had just come down for the weekend to check the city out and get a little feel for what its like down here before the she made the big move. Later that night I am dancing with the very attractive girl and my main wingman down here is entertaining her friend. We are dancing real close, making great eye contact and nothing but smiles go back and forth between the two of us. She telling me “your hot, in a handsome way” and I am telling her she sexy and all this. we dance for a while. I am feeling petty good about this at this point. So I end up getting her # XXXXX that I can meet the girls at the beach the next day. So I wake the next mourning, feeling real good about myself, I had met this beautiful girl who I felt like we clicked well the night before. even better she is going to be living in the same area that I am in a week. So I meet up the girls at the beach the next day, we hang out for couple of hours, have some good conversation. I am thinking she is in to me and I am obviously into her, but am not over doing it, keeping things a bit casual but still give the gentle touches every once and a while. So we have a good day at the beach, the girls are telling me that when they first saw me they thought I was real cute and all that, and just had some good laughs. I feel it is important to get in good with a girl that you are interested in friends also. So after all this I am feeling like both the girl like me and think I am a good guy. It’s all Money! So I leave the beach agree I am going to meet the girls out again later that night. So I go home take a nap, then go and meet the girls out that night. So we a having a good time sitting around the a table, some guys that the girls knew come up to the table, my girl had done buisness with the one guy before and apparently she had hooked up with one of his friends a while back. I donno to much about all that, but don’t really care about all that its in the past. But they were talking about it and out of this I hear her say that she “has a boyfriend now anyway”. The guy asks if the Boyfriend is making the move and I pretty sure she is moving down by here self, So I am almost positive the boy friend is not coming down. So that makes me question how strong of a relationship she could be in, especially since I feel we are connecting. So I know nothing about this boyfriend or what there status or how long they have been dating. But all I know is I am feeling strong attractions with this girl, and feel she is into me to. So we are walking to a to a different bar later on the night and she reaches out for my hand trying to hold it. This kind catches me off guard so I kinda let her hold on to my arm but don’t really go back with the hand grasp, which I donno why, I think the news of the boy friend probably made me react like that. When we get into the bar that we had be walking to she tells me about how hot she thought I was when she first saw me and I tell her How yeah I knew you two were looking at me, I was just acting like I didn’t see you, just kinda laughing and having a good time with it. So I end up again dancing with here for most the rest of the night, and am having the same thing nothing but great eye contact and smiles back and forth. She ends up giving me ride back to my condo, say my good byes to here and here friend, telling them how nice it was to meet them, and tell My girl to make sure she gives me a call when she gets back in town this week. So she tells me she will be back in town Thursday and I have to get hold of her. SOOooo, with all that said there is excitement for me but it also leaves me with a lot of confusion and I will explain all that.
Submitted: 13 years ago.Category: Relationship
First of, When I meet a girl at a bar I am usually tying to get one thing done. That is get her back to my place that night and have sex. That’s just kinda how I usually do things living the bachelor life style. But with this girl, I looked at here and was like wow, I can see my self with a girl like this. It was like I automatically had a respect for her and the more and more I got to know here the respect got stronger. Even though I feel that I want to get know here a lot more.
Second, I do not know what to take with the news that there could be a boy friend compared to how we kind connected in a flirtatious way. That is the part that I am the most confused about. Because I do not know how I should do things when she gets back if there is a boy friend. I mean Is she just a flirt? Or do is there really a connection between us?
Third, I have a had a girl or two in the past that I have felt kind similar about like this and I feel that I may have ruined those situations because I went after it to strong. I know that if you put it on to thick with a girl that you a have a big thing for she will get either annoyed or bored with you and that will end things. Its almost like you have to leave a little curiosity and challenge for a girl that you are really into, but it is so hard to do so because you want here so bad.
Soo with all that said, Please give me some feedback on what your opinions are on this situation and how I should play it this when she gets back to town later this week. Thank you!