After leaving my ex alone for 2 weeks and sorting my mind out, I sent her an email to say that I was cool with her decision to break it off. I briefly said some things I was up to (all of which indicated I was enjoying life and being ambitious) and said, despite everything, she had a friend in me. The following day she responded by email by saying that she was glad things were going well for me and appreciated my gesture. She also said "good luck with everything". Anyway, 12 minutes later she sent another email explaining that she had badly broken her foot, was recuperating at home and that this was forcing her to take a look at her life, to slow down and to get organised. She added that work had been good but the broken foot was making things difficult and was financially burdensome. She said for me not to laugh too much. She also said that her kids were doing well. I sent her an email saying that I hoped she was okay (in the circumstances) and said that I understood this would be hard for her. That night (a Friday night) she phoned. I was not at home: I was away for the night but learned that she had phoned by checking "call back" the following morning. I didn't call her. On Sunday I sent her a quick email to say I was thinking of her and hoped again that she was okay. She responded fairly quickly by saying initially she was okay but said, "Aren't you away up the coast at the moment with your triathlon?" She added that her brother had, on the previous day, been involved in a motorcycle accident and had also broken his foot. She then said she was "sort of okay" and that this was all a pain and financially not pretty. I responded later on to say that was terrible about her brother and that I hoped he'd be okay too. I said that the triathlon was this coming weekend and added that training was going well. I also said that I was looking forward to the weekend (which I am) as there's always a great atmosphere with lots of people. I added that I felt for her not being able to get around, because she likes to exercise. She didn't respond - I didn't expect her to respond as I didn't really ask her a question (as she had done to me) and, therefore, suggest a "conversation". Am I playing this right? I am annoyed at her cutting me off in the way she did and do not want to return to her too soon, if that's what she wants. She's gone from saying, "no contact", "we cannot be friends", "leave me be", "I'm looking at my goals and objectives" and "I don't love you in the way I need to to be with someone" 2-3 weeks ago to ringing me up. I appreciate this is very early days and she would be tentative about lots of things. She knows in the things she's emailed me I can "fill in" that which is not being said, ie, in terms of her not being okay. I sense she's relieved and happy to hear from me; she's also feeling alone and I think she thinks I'm the only one who could possibly come close to understanding her at the moment. I was thinking of not contacting her again for a few days and when I do, it's simply a "Hi" and to enquire about her foot and how she's coping. I don't want to offer to help her out - after all, we're only "friends" who've only reconnected in the last few days and my going any further suggests that the "friendship" line was false. I respect her decision to break it off; I'm happy to be her friend if that's what she wants; but I'm also happy to be more than that if she wants it. All the old feelings are already essentially back and they're quite strong. What should I do? I don't want to appear pushy. But, to enable me to handle this properly, I need to have some guidance as to what her actions are really saying and leading to and, perhaps more importantly, what she's likely to be expecting of me. Is she really asking for my help and expecting me to be more "understanding"?; is there a point when merely asking how she is and if she's coping is not enough? If a "relationship" is on the cards, is this sort of questioning going to wear thin? I appreciate things may indicate she wants me in her life in some form but she's not sure how. Although she's "familiar" with me, she's very straight to the point about what's going on in her life at the moment in terms of how it's affecting her; ie, while she might tell everyone about her broken foot she wouldn't tell most people about her becoming "philosophical". It just seems to me as though she feels comfortable crossing that line with me and doesn't feel restrained by a notion of "friendship". While I need to be careful that she's not using me, there's a point when everyone just feels okay with opening up to someone; but, if she was trying to protect herself by keeping me at a distance, would she be so honest about effectively admitting that she's frustrated with her life? I need a strategy.