How JustAnswer Works:
  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site. Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.
Ask Ms Chase Your Own Question
Ms Chase
Ms Chase, Life Coach
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 2897
Experience:  Over 20 yrs experience with Relationships, Sexuality, Friendship, and Family Issues
Type Your Relationship Question Here...
Ms Chase is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Ive been in a relationship with another women.for 3 yre. She

Customer Question

Ive been in a relationship with another women.for 3 yre. She is living with another women for 16 years she said that they are friends an the 16 yr partner knows about me. an she wants the one im seeing problem is she wont move in with me.An she says im presureing her when i ask for a ring.I feel like a toy.question where do you see this going she wont give me a date to live together.what should i do?
Submitted: 9 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.
Hello Joanne,

To be clear, you are a woman?

You've been in a relationship with her, and the whole time she was living with another woman?

have you met this other woman?

What is everyone's ages?

What does 'an she wants the one im seeing happy' mean?

She says they are friends? have they ever been in a relationship?

Customer: replied 9 years ago.
I did answer but i will again. my name is XXXXX XXXXX women i am seeing is the one that XXXXX XXXXXves with is kathy. yes i am a we are all women. i havent met kathy in person only talked to her one time on the phone.are ages are joann 47.mary.47.kathy57 ... kathy is the one that said she wasnts mary she would let her come an be with me...kathy an mary had a 13 year relationship they knew each other for 6years before they got together....i was just told by mary.that the reson she is scareed to move in with me is she doesnt think we can make it with our incomes put together. she lives in a house an i live in an i have been making it just fine without her .do you think she really loves me or am i her toy an she is using excuess not to be with me
Customer: replied 9 years ago.
I havent got an answer yet
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 9 years ago.
Hi Joann,

You have two types of have some people who when they are in love, nothing else matters. Money, arguments, other people, personal problems.....none of that matters because 'love will conquer all'. Then you have people with a more pragmatic attitude, they are concerned with paying their bills, where they live and the quality of their life.....most of them will say, 'love doesn't pay the bills'. It's possible that she is really scared that if she moved in with you that as a couple, it would be a financial struggle, and if she's been used to living comfortably, this may be unacceptable to her. It may not mean that she doesn't love you, but it could mean that she doesn't love you 'enough' to take the risk of not living a quality of life that she is accustomed to. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more