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You have to be very careful that her parents don't find out because they could charge you with Statutory Rape of a minor and there goes your college career and any other career you will hope to have. Those are serious charges but as far as your parents are concerned you have to respect their wishes as long as you are staying in their house but if you are not then you have to live your life the way you want to live it, don't hold your parents harshness against them they have your best interest at heart and love and care for you and don't want you to do anything that will mess up your education. They may feel that this girl you care so much about isn't mature mentally enough for you and that you will start slacking in school and won't be motivated.
Talk to your parents and tell them that you want them to trust that you know what you're doing and that they bought you up to respect all women. As far as this girl is concerned, a long distance relationship is hard enough let alone a forbidden one it makes it even harder for the relationship to succeed because everyone is against you. When you go away to college then you can make your life just that your life but until then and while you are living in your parent's home you have no choice but to respect their wishes or hide to talk to this girl. I really think the thing your parent dislike about this relationship is her age she is not legally of age to date someone your age and your parents don't want her parents to get mad and charge you with Statutory Rape.
Your parents have your best interest in mind when they put these demands on you so don't be too upset with them. You're at the age where you have to start making choices for yourself and make your own way in life and your parents are just finding hard to let go and allow you to make your own mistakes and learn from them.
Then you have a tough decision to make because you know the only way you will be able to see her with out interference from you parents is if you were out on your own. Are you going away for college? If so make that your opportunity to see the girl and talk to her maybe think about getting a phone that you have to buy minutes for this way it will be your own personal phone to talk to her on and your parents won't get a bill showing her number on it. You are of age to make your own decisions without having to go to your parents for permission and since her mother doesn't mind her dating or talking to you then you have to do what you have to in order to be happy. It may be time for you to actually become an adult and get your own place and pay your own bills but since you are going to be in college that is going to be very hard to do. You're right there are MANY people that go to college and work to be independent, you could do it also. You just have to make up your mind what is more important to you right now staying with your parents and having them help you with finances or being with the girl you love and care about and being able to see and talk to her as much as you want to.