There's a couple of issues here obviously. The weight is a so- issue because there are people who will accept you for who you are, even if you are a few pounds overweight. You should consider using full body pics in your ad as well as face pics. If you like, I can take a look at your ad to see how you are coming across to people. You can cut and paste here or send it [email protected]
and ask them to send it to me.
Being attracted to younger guys can be an issue if you are passing up older men for them. Everyone wants a hard bodied young hottie, but I'm not sure there are enough to go around (smile). Consider other single sites or boards, like craigslist.org, and maybe going out twice a month to a bar or club, even just with a friend for a drink or two. This alone can widen possibilities, but do NOT go with the expectation of meeting someone, only go with the expectation to have a great drink with your friend, have a good time and come home....if you meet someone thats just an extra perk.
If you can afford it, perhaps you should look into having work done on your eyes. If it's nothing drastic, how expensive could it be? And even something as small as an eye lift could make all the difference in the world. Beef up you ads, add some new pics, go out to a gay establishment once or twice a month, and do what you feel you need physically. It may not happen immediately, but when we make changes, things around us change. There is someone out there who is willing to love you the way you need to be loved, you just have to make it easier for him to find you.
I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more