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It sounds like the two of you have come to different paths you want to take, you want to semi retire and he wants to work all of the time, you want to travel and take vacation but he doesn't want to do anything but work and make money. There is more to life than making money and working all of the time and it's not healthy to only work and not have some fun and relax. He is probably bordering psychopath because he is always uptight and stressed he needs to relax and enjoy life. It sounds like he has always had to do for himself because no one else would in his life and he has gotten use to being that way. When people start getting older they get used to doing things a certain way and tend to get set in their ways but your mate is still young enough to make a change but he has to want to make that change.
I don't think the two of you need couples therapy he needs individual counseling before he makes himself have a heart attack or ulcers from the stress. He need to learn how to try and find a happy medium in his life so that he can relax and have fun and enjoy life and realize it's not just about working it's about living life to the fullest so that he doesn't look back with regrets not to mention the fact that you are fed up with his behavior and false promises. He doesn't want to look around and find out that you are gone because you just couldn't live like this anymore that is why it's important for him to do some counseling. You need to tell him either he does this for himself or your relationship will be in jeopardy. Tell him you're fed up with his false promises and being a workaholic and that you want to enjoy life and travel and if he doesn't want to do that then your relationship is in big trouble.
He really needs a reality check and why wait until a heart attack or health problems is that reality check. You're right you need to do what makes you happy now and if he doesn't want to do it then do it for yourself. He has issues that go as far back as when he was younger with his family and he has learned to shut people out so not to feel more than he wants to, it seems he likes being alone which isn't healthy it just teaches him how to lose touch with reality even more but what he doesn't realize is through being like this he is holding you back also and keeping you from enjoying your life and freedom.