Thank you very much for your reply. I tried posting on the legal section, and the chances are slim since I wasn't married to this guy. But he did lie over and over to me, and deceived me, took advantage of me, and made me spend my money on him so I have heard I still can file for court If I wish... and make him humiliated...
You have suggested me to go see a psychiatrist, and actually I already have been seeing him since June, 2007, and I already have been taking medication for depression, anxiety, and sleep inducers. I have been taking a sick leave from work since February of this year. I have been feeling better than 6 months ago, but still sometimes I remember what he said or did to me, and get very much frustrated. It is so unfair that the person who hurted me moved on so easily and seems happy, when I am having difficulties getting over the whole issue. The breakup itself is less of an issue - the experience of being betrayed by somebody you trusted the MOST is very much hurting. I am probably too naive.
I can only wish that they would not work out eventually - since they dated for 3 months and got engaged, and moved in and eloped in 6 months. Since he was such a good lier I hope he stays the same and does it again and in different ways eventually to the girl he married.
I know wishing for bad things is not healthy, but right now sometimes I can't stop but thinking about it. I am looking for a trigger that would change my mind... to really realize that he wasn't actually worth it and it was better for me to break up with him.
I really hope the saying "What goes around comes around" is true... and they will face some critical issues during their relationship. If you have any statistics about couples who marry who dated less than a year, or trends about repeated liers and cheaters, would you be able to share it with me? It may help me gain peace of mind.
Thank you very much.