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-What are your ages?
-How long have you live together?
-Did you explain your condition to him?
-Do you have a normal sex life or has that changed also?-Could you explain your situation a little more?Thank you again for trusting me with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that I can finish answering your question.
It sounds like your boyfriend is stressed out from everything from, losing your apartment, having to live with his parents, not having any space or time to yourselves, your depression, money situation, and it's taking it's toll on him. I feel that if you have your own place things would get better and you both could work on the relationship again. When someone says they aren't in love with a person that doesn't mean they can not fall back in love with them, the good thing is he said he wanted to work on the relationship so there is something there. All is not lost yet but you have to want to put in the work and as far as your weight is concerned you have to want to lose the weight for yourself not for someone else or to make someone else happy. He did say you are beautiful not matter what, he may just want you to be healthy mentally and physically maybe you could ask him to help you get fit this will be more time the two of you can spend together.
I think you need to start from scratch like the two of you just met ask him if the two of you ca start over even if you get an apartment together you can still start over. You can not fault him for seeing other people while the two of you were broken up so don't throw that in his face it may make things worse instead of better you are going to have to forget about all those other girls that he dated after you broke up don't make that another obstacle in your relationship. If he can see the reasons he fell in love with you before it could possibly happen for the two of you again but you both have to forget the past and the real question is can he do that can he forget that you didn't get help when you felt there was something changing inside of you. What he doesn't understand that people with depression can't help how they feel and are often too depressed to do anything sex, going to a doctor for help for the depression, functioning, it's a daily chore just getting out of bed sometimes.
When you talk to him next ask he if you can start all over and see what his response is and then take it from there. He may need a little time so give him that and if he does agree start out with little date nights and then gradually spend more time together let him see that you are making an effort to win him back. You should work on you before you take these steps work on the body and the mind and the soul, we can not make others happy if we are not happy within ourselves remember that so make sure everything with you is okay before you attempt to win him back because if he sees that nothing has changed you could lose him for good so be very careful how you approach him.