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Your best bet is to just lay all of your cards on the table and tell her how you feel if you truly want her back, if you don't tell her and she keeps thinking you are just friends she may just forget about there be any chance of you getting back together and staying with the other guy. She is probably contacting you and asking you the personal questions because she misses you and she knows that she was the one to break things off when she said she wasn't ready for a relationship but she only realized since you have been apart what she had probably but you won't know that unless you talk to her about both of your feelings, ask her straight out how she feels about you before you let your feelings be known this way if she is still saying she only wants friendship then you know that then isn't the time to tell her.
Some people when they break up with someone think they are doing the right thing but later regrets breaking up with that person because they realize how good they had it or they just can't get that person out of their head so they try to feel them out and see if they too miss them and want to get back together. Just make sure she isn't just trying to be a friend like she said she wanted to be. She may figure having you in her life somehow is better than not having you in it at all. I say throw all caution to the wind and fight for the person you love what do you have to lose you are already broken up. Just tell her how you feel and this way it will be in the back of her mind that you still care about her and have her best interest at heart.
She will realize that you are fighting for her and possibly give your relationship another chance but you also have to consider, are you willing to only have her as a friend? Could you be able to separate the two? Are you willing to have her in your life as friend just so you can have her in your life at all?
You really have nothing to lose since you aren't together now anyway. I would tell her and if you don't want to tell her face to face write her a nice letter explaining your feelings for her. Yes I would tell her don't let this moment get away she asked that means she wants to know, tell her now.
Yes there is definitely hope for you, you just have to learn to not be so needy and hang out more with your friends. Being needy sometimes makes your mate feel smothered and like they never have time to themselves because you are always around if you get out with friends and do things without each other it tends to keep the relationship on an even kill allow each other me time is an important thing in a relationship and if a couple does have that sometimes they grow tired of each other. Get reacquainted with your friends go to the movies, dinner, bowling, sports events anything that gets you out and about and gives your girlfriend some space she will appreciate you more if you don't tend to follow her around like a puppy dog. Instead of staying in when you have break up that is the best time to be around friend they can uplift you and make you forget for the time being and it makes it so much easier to get over someone if you keep busy and not shut yourself down.
It's okay to spend time with the woman you care about but it can be harmful if you want to spend every waking moment with them they sometimes tend to get frustrated easily because they have no time to themselves and they feel like that have to constantly giving you attention. Here are some sites I've found that may help you get out of your shell and become social:
It seems like a matter of time by her words and questions she asks. Someone that just wants to be friends does not ask if you think they are attractive, I really do think she is feeling you out in hopes of having another chance. Ask her if she thinks the two of you could ever have another chance at a relationship, she may be afraid you will reject her because she broke it off and doesn't know if you still harbor bad feelings about that. Reassure her that you don't and that you somewhat understood why she had to do that, this might speed up the process of the two of you getting back together but also try to be patient until you can work on the clinginess and neediness.
As much as it hurts her she has to see Tyler for the real person he is and until she can leave Tyler alone completely she will be no good to another else until she find closure in this relationship. She is already seeing that you are the better man the way you just hang out with her and are being her shoulder to cry on. Just continue being her friend and show her that you would never do anything like that to her as a matter of fact tell her that and tell her "You don't deserve to be treated the way Tyler treats you." If she does give you another chance you have to make sure that you aren't going to be second best. If she calls you only when her and Tyler are having problems that's because she knows she can depend on you and if you continue to do this she will realize what she gave up and little by little she will forget about Tyler. Sometimes women are attracted to bad boys they want to know what it's like to date one and then they get their heart broken.
Just make sure you don't lose yourself and who you are trying to win her back and don't change for anyone, don't try to change into Tyler because you think that is what she likes she likes and cares about you but she has to get over Tyler if she is going to be all that you want her to be and have her heart and not share it. Just give it some time to play out. Why don't you try asking her if she wants to hang out on your own and not waiting for her to call you, this way you will see if she only calls you when things with her and Tyler aren't going the way she wants them to go. Ask her to lunch one day and see what her answer is, tell her I know you were feeling down and I want to see if you were okay, don't make it about your relationship and rekindling it make it about how she is feeling. She will appreciate the gesture and the fact that you made it about how she was feeling because Tyler isn't considering her feelings at all.
If she is confusing tell her that and tell her that she needs to make up her mind what she wants and to let you know when she knows, maybe try not answering her calls for help as much make her deal with what she chose. If she only calls you when she needs you and her current boyfriend Tyler isn't being there for her and is out cheating tell her she chose that life for herself. You cannot be there at her beck and call because she will think that you will remain there for her until she is ready to make up her mind, don't sell yourself short like that. Tell her how you feel about her and that you want the relationship that you use to have but if she doesn't respond to that then you need to move on for yourself she is evidently liking the bad boy persona right now so you shouldn't be there for her when she need a shoulder to cry on if it isn't helping her to realize that you are the best guy for her then she may never realize that because she is too busy chasing after Tyler and catching him cheating. Don't change for anyone don't try to be that person she wants be you and will be better in the long run and maybe you should consider that she may not be the right person for you after all.
You're too good of a person to allow someone to use you in this way, you could wait for her to be free but how long would that take? How long would you be willing to wait for her? I think you should get out more and meet new people maybe she is realizes that you are not playing her games no more she will change but that isn't certain. Also maybe if you go on a few dates you will find someone that truly deserves you and wants you in there life. I'm saying that she doesn't want you in her life but she kind of has her cake and eats it too.