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Of course you feel rejected and hurt and alone because you feel like the marriage is only one-sided and that you have no support from him in anyway and that you are doing everything yourself. It seems almost as if he is your child and not your husband. You have to know when enough is enough and that you want better for yourself and want things to change in your marriage because evidently he is not trying to the best of his ability to make the marriage less strained for you and that isn't fair to you or the marriage. It is going to be hard for you to get him to change on his own because he has been this way for 11 years and just sat back and took it, decide that you are not going to take it anymore and he will make more of an effort hopefully and if not you may need to consider marriage counseling because it sounds like this marriage is in trouble. Tell him you want to try counseling and maybe the counselor can get him to understand how he is treating you and why he is doing it.
I just don't see your marriage ending because of something that can be fixed and possibly make it stronger. A counselor can give you so many other option in how to communicate in the marriage and talk things out so that you nor your husband have to get so frustrated with each other. He will learn to appreciate you more and everything you do for him and the household. Tell your husband you are at your breaking point and feel unappreciated and that if he loves you he would try the marriage counseling, I just don't see the two of you working this out on your own you have tried that and have gotten no where. The counselor may even want your husband to do single counseling between him and the counselor be open for that if you do choose to go that route. If you have anything to add please click reply and let me know.
Well you have tried everything on your own and it's not working and he won't see that your serious until you do something drastic or until you agrees to get counseling. Unless you want to try a trial separation which the situation isn't serious enough to warrant a separation unless you are fed up to that point where you can not take it anymore. Maybe you could invest in some self help books or e-books from online on making your marriage better. If you allow things to go on the way they have been its only going to get worse and when you are stressed it's not good for your health. It seems like that you are at your breaking point now and have tried everything.
Do you have a clergyman that you can talk to but you see if you get someone that your husband knows to talk to him he might get angry because you told people your marital problems but you can't do this yourself you already tried. Do you think it's possible for you to get your husband to come here and talk to one of our relationship experts? Maybe he could hear from an outside source that the way he treats you isn't good for your marriage. Also I could have another expert talk to you and you can get a second opinion if you would like. Please let me know what you think.
I am going to ask Ms Chase to talk to you also she is our top relationship expert and a very caring person and maybe she can give you some advice that I have missed and if afte ryou talk to MsChase you would like to continue to talk to me that is fine and if you find her more helpful that is fine also I put alot of faith into MsChase and she is great. Let me see if she is on it may take a few mintues for her to get back to you but she may be able to give you some other advice also. Good Luck to you!