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I think that you should at least meet her and see how it goes from there. I don't think it's fair to just dismiss her out of hand because of her illness. Lupus can be hard on some people, but there are people that live with it without a lot of problems. The issues is, we cannot choose who we love, and when we fall for someone, all of those other things won't matter as much. By the same token, if you decided to walk away, no one could blame you, however you may not want to look back and wonder, 'what if' you had of made a different decision? I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.
That was my point. Give yourself the chance to meet her, and then see how you feel. Not everyone with lupus is the same. You guys might meet and nothing comes from it except very good friends, you could meet and decide that neither of you likes the other "like that", or you could meet her and realize she's the girl of your dreams. Or you could cut things now, move on and never know. No one wants to be with someone who is depressed and sick all the time, but it make take a little time to be sure that this isn't the case. Keep in mind that no one would blame you if you felt that these things are too much for you to deal with at this time in your life, that is your perogative and your choice. You have to try and base it on what you think would work for you, not just now, but in the long run, and also what you can handle, emotionally and spiritually. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more
You're welcome, I'm glad that I was able to help in some way. In this internet age, it's not uncommon for people to develop these online or phone relationships, so it's not something that is uncommon any longer. I know so many people who met their significant others or spouses online.
The only thing I would say is that when you meet her, and you make your decision, tell her....don't string her aXXXXX, XXXXX't sleep with her, don't play games with her. If it's not something you want to deal with then walk away. If she's as great as you say, there is someone out there that will be willing to love her, so if that person is not yo, allow her the ability to walk away and be able to find that other someone.
You can talk to me anytime you like I'm always here. You can simply put "att chase" in the subject line.